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Late, long reply...
4 jobs, holy... Yeah, I think that's exactly what had happened to us/her. She has even said so, that it feels like one more thing that needs doing. Also she has a history of burning out once or twice, so things are easily triggered as stress, unfortunately.
I honestly don't know. I don't think so, from what she tells me. Depends on what you mean I guess, but in my mind we are meant for each other, and we have told each other we want to be with each other for the rest of our lives. We are engaged, two kids.
Sounds to me like you are living the relationship dream, being with someone that is such a great libido match, whether low or high.
Update on our situation: in my mind we had a big setback. She said there's a lot right now. Our original plan was too stressful, and it just felt like implicit nagging rather than explicit, but still stressful.
I agreed to one month of not even mentioning sex at all. She felt very relaxed during that month, and she seemed much happier.
Now more than a week after that month, and I finally suggested we could maybe do something saucy. Nope. Too tired, early morning for work, etc... Same excuses as always.
I'm not too hopeful anymore. Feel like I'm back to square one. I don't want to start up our sex life again in 15 years when our kids are adults... While we're young, and whatnot. ๐