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Anything without a boss breathing down my neck. I want to be told what needs to be done and when it needs to be done by, then leave me the fk alone to achieve that however I see fit.

As a kid already, my three dreams were music, writing, or game dev. I'm really over the rockstar thing, I wouldn't mind jamming in a band again but I don't think I'll look for success in that avenue again.

As far as writing goes, the state of 'journalism' and AI these days makes me almost glad I didn't get a career in it, and being a successful author seems like almost as much of a longshot as being a successful rockstar.

So these days my dream job is game dev. Something that I could put music and writing and art and any other creativity into at the same time. I don't want to make the next Skyrim. Goals for me are someone like the Stardew Valley dev that is now successful and can spend all his time working on his one love if he wants, or tinker with something new without any pressure, if he wants.

South Africa, Western Cape. Pretty shit actually. There's like one month in the year that I actually get to dress up nicely without sweating and stripping off layers. And there's barely any autumn or spring to speak of. It's just hot weather into hotter weather into less hot weather again and into a month or two of cold. I preferred the weather on the eastern side of the country in Kwa-Zulu Natal. Winter and summer are more defined and there's at least a hint of autumn and spring.

Ultimately I want to be somewhere cold though. I feel like the older I get, the more I hate this endless fkn summer. I want to be cold and cozy and comfortable and wear all my jackets and cool shit daily.

I feel like they've probably all got pros and cons and probably require a little research. I recently signed up here on lemm.ee and the sign up process seemed pretty quick and simple. And they seem to do minimal de-federating. But the flip side to that is you can't upload any images for your first 4 weeks on the server. 4 fkn weeks.

And if I'd read that first, I might have reconsidered joining here. I think I'd rather be inconvenienced by sightly more in depth questions and a 1 day wait time for signing up than a 4 fkn week wait before I can even upload a profile pic and banner image.

Edit: in fact I'm gonna go as far as saying that it's false advertising. They advertise as general purpose instance but seemingly can't even handle a thing that about 50% if this type of social media entails. They should change their blurb on join-lemmy to "We would like to be a general purpose reddit-like instance but our servers catch on fire every time someone uploads a meme, so we should actually be doing something smaller scale instead of pretending that we can hang with lemmy.world".

Yeah, also forcing it to sit or stay somewhere. And getting angry at retaliation and that sort of thing.

Obviously there's exceptions like children or people who maybe just genuinely don't know how to handle animals but I think a lot show their true colours when it comes to something that can't really fight back or speak for itself like a pet.

Some people are very forceful with animals and disrespectful of boundaries with them. I think that cats especially are good at making it clear what they would like or not like you to do.

Maybe it's an unfair criteria to judge people on but people forcing animals to do things or otherwise treating them like objects is a red flag to me.

Manulsphere

Pretty sad that this is even needed tbh but it's all very well put.

I think a good indicator of how people really are with the idea of consent and boundaries (even if they charm their way with other social conventions) is to watch them with pets, especially cats.

• Stardew Valley
• Skyrim
• ADOM
• Burnout Paradise
• Vegas Solitaire (or I think a decent Solitaire collection is a fair exception to that one rule because you can get many games out of a pack of cards)

Stardew Valley, Skyrim and ADOM for games that you can keep going back to over years and playing in different ways and still discovering new things. Vegas Solitaire for more of a mindless time passer when you don't want something immersive and involved. Burnout Paradise for something in between complex and mindless and something different once in a while.

Edit: I hope I eventually get rescued though because there's a LOT of shorter titles that I'd miss.

The Fox and the Hound!

Yeah it's definitely a right wing christian agenda in this whole thing. Same as with the 'manosphere', which started out telling people to be tough and 'manly' and has ended up with something like purity culture where they evaluate women to carry their babies for them and vote against women's rights. I even saw a stat that these same young men that follow the manosphere are starting to turn religious, surprise surprise.

This TERF shit is the same agenda but for women. And the terminology is slightly more sophisticated because it's aimed at people that actually read and won't believe just any story about George Soros or whatever. So their version of "woke agenda" is "trans ideology". But they're both the same, both fighting to preserve and enforce white christian patriarchal culture onto everyone and push down and eradicate anyone who breaks norms.

And the sad part is that I think a lot genuinely think they're trailblazing rebels or something. But they're doing exactly what the conservative religious right wants. The same people that want to see them reduced to kitchen appliances and baby incubators.

Tracksuit pants and hoodies for me. If it's particularly cold, I'll wear a jersey over my hoodie. I also have a fairly sizeable collection of bathrobes that I practically live in sometimes.

I'll wear the same hoodies out but that's about it. Although I've got a pair of plaid tracksuit pants that I'd love a more wearable out and about version of.

I kinda think Witchy Memes and WitchesvsPatriarchy should be merged.