das selbe Sachen
verstehe ich nicht
das selbe Sachen
verstehe ich nicht
this is a good idea
Neurodivergent people have trouble understanding social cues/norms,and might have issues understanding why people act/react the way they do.
if I don't understand why people won't leave me alone and keep pestering me and goading me onto talking to them, am I neurodivergent?
Am I neurodivergent if I think extroverts talk to each other because they feel that silence means something is wrong and they simply cannot phantom the idea that some people are different and react like most posters here: I hate people, I'm an asshole?
Am I neurodivergent if I ignore those that bother and bore me and talk to those that let me be? With these ones I open up because I feel they're genuine. The problem is, these genuine humans are a small minority, whereas most people bore me. I don’t have time for people that bore me, but I can fake I tolerate them at work.
Not trying to get back at you, just my genuine questions.
Maybe you’re just shy, and they should initiate more interaction to make you more comfortable?
Please don’t.
Most people expect some level of sociality with their co-workers.
Then I’ll have to use strategies to feed them noise and give them attention so they calm down and let me work, as some posters suggested, till I find a better fitting job.
Is this a neurodivergent question? If my best is not good enough for my coworkers and manager, I need a new job.
So, what you want to do is to answer those unasked questions in terms they can understand and without offending them.
Gotcha. Good advice. Patience and learning to deflect.
you are right. I don't want to be approachable, I want to avoid creating enemies, work and go home.
You basically described what my life was like when I worked in finance.
are you now at least on a better place?
What pissed me off the most was that it’s apparently not good enough for extroverts if you just keep to yourself and do your work quietly; they have to seek you out and disturb you just to get the attention that they think you owe them.
yup, absolute lack of awareness
actually I may need to quit this job or at least quit my coworkers.
lol, I'm using this
und das ist überhaupt kein Problem, es stört mich nicht zu hören, was anderen am Wochenende gemacht haben, solange sie nicht schreien. Was mir nicht gefällt ist, zu reden gezwungen werden, reden müssen, weil sonst die Topfguckerfraktion sich beleidigt fühlt. Und dann fangen sie an, hinter den Rücken anderen Menschen wie Schulkinder zu reden. Zufolge finden manche Arbeitskolleginnen Sachen zu tun, wenn ich Hilfe brauche oder begrüßen, ohne Augenkontakt zu schaffen. Und für das habe ich kein Bock.