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to those of you who like doing your job and go home, what do you tell chatty coworkers to keep their questions and time they take from you to a minimum? (feddit.de)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm an introvert and I like going to work to do my job and go home. I don't understand people who use a job as a substitute for friendship or marriage. It's a means to an end.

The sooner I do my duties, the longer my downtime is going to be, and I love having my downtime.

Many of my colleagues see me and immediately start asking questions I don't want to answer, but neither do I want to hurt their feelings, I mostly want to be left alone. In the past this has been deconstructed as arrogance and people with fragile egos feel insulted by my indifference to them and that I prefer to work than to talk to them.

The world is made by extroverts. I have observed that people are eager to help you if you give them attention. I don't get it, but neither I'm not going to change how extroverts think or feel.

If I give them the attention they need for as long as they need it I'm going to end up with daily headaches and neither my job nor theirs is going to be done.

I want to appear approachable, but keeping the info I feed them to a minimum. How do I do that?

What do you talk about to your coworkers?

What do you say to stop conversation organically? (meaning they don't get offended).

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

lol, I'm using this

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Parent comment is pretty much what I do, but toned down ofc. Just don't talk about anything other than work. Someone asks how you're doing? Say that work is going fine. Or say that it's not great because work is piling up.

Someone ask what you did over the weekend? Planned for what to do next week at work

Essentially, for questions, replace every instance of "you" with "your work" and then answer that question. Works wonders

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

YOU just worked wonders 🫵

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago

YOUR WORK is just wonders