Overpopulation and regression of social advances.
this post was submitted on 04 Jan 2025
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Im really mad and worried about the world my kids are inheriting.
Climate, not being able to retire on time
Rent is due in 27 days.
- Economic collapse
- Being too anxious to work
- Fascism
- Unexpected death
- Singularity
Climate change, and the generations after me who will have nothing left.
Probably about my pets
Me too. Just tonight I lost my cat, and found her hours later, with a tomcat on top... Doctor said she's too young to be spayed, he was wrong...
Job, lack of relationship/connection, climate, existing in a semi burnout state.
Right now, climate change. This planet was a paradise and we ruined it for ourselves. I don't think we have very long before ecosystems just start breaking down in massive ways.
This planet was a paradise
idk man, the "kill or be killed" nature of existence is kinda not really "paradise"
Well, considering on all the other planets we know about its "die or be dead", I'd classify that as "paradise"
money
Ending up in a labor camp within the next 4 years
Have you considered moving to some civilized place?
Not the person you replied to, but:
My Options are:
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Remain in US
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Go back to China, an actual dictatorship. Hopefully Xi doesn't find all the anti-CCP stuff I said while in the US? China tends to label people who have moved oveeseas as "ζ±ε₯Έ" (Han Traitor). I could potentially end up in prison. Also job market has like 10 times more people competing than the US. Also ζ·ε£ (Hukou) issues, my Hukou was in some rural village, very shitty place. If I go to a city (where the actual jobs are), I'm essentially treated as a foreigner in my own country. (Also, China revoked my Chinese citizenship already. So I'd technically be an actual foreigner lmao)
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Become... stateless and get stuck in an airport?
Or secret option number 4:
4. Hope an advanced alien civilization abducts me? π /jk, but that's be fun tho
- French foreign legion
Most of us are far too broke.
It takes a one way ticket and ask for political asylum. Or something. If you have proof of ancestry somewhere in Europe you can get citizenship.
Lol. Most of the world still officially considers the US a democracy, so nope, no asylum. They'll tell you to relocate within your country (aka, move to a blue state, blue city).
Good luck, and bye! you get deported back to the US
Yeah, weβll have to wait for open civil war to break out before theyβre liable to accept any meaningful quantity of Americans who arenβt in VERY special circumstances. And weβd also have to piss off enough countries such that theyβd refuse to extradite (or just go to France (but good luck if the French fascist party wins)).
Not finding anyone to replace my ex in my heart. Someone not finding her and giving her the life we dreamed about.
She can't be replaced
I know, I'm just unsure how to move on lifewise guiltwise lovewise
Have you grieved?
Yes, for about a year. I'm grieving still.
Do you have a lot of unresolved feelings? Did you get some sort of closure?
Feelings: I can't shake away the thought that I've hurt her deeply. I mourn for the children we wanted to have. The house and the garden I promised. The stolen fertile years of her life. I hurt someone whose only crime was not quite being able to share the same headspace as me. I felt lonely in the relationship due to the language and the alien culture, but since I've been alone and moved back to my home country I've realised that I tend to just generally live in my head, regardless of language or company.
I feel that my loneliness problem wasn't coming from her somewhat difficulty in hearing me, but in my difficulty sharing aspects of myself with others. I feel that I've ruined my life, and that's okay, completely self-inflicted... but I can't live with the idea that I've ruined hers too. The thought and the guilt buries me every night.
Closure: we've said goodbye a thousand times, and have talked about the above themes, but I can't shake away the memories I have with her.
Sounds like a many incomplete closures? So you keep talking with each other or where are you now?
Broke up in February. Said a final goodbye in August. Haven't talked since.
For what it's worth I think that's still quite recent and I think grieving is going to be a longer process. Like if you've moved on a year from now then that would be amazing, so I wouldn't focus so much on that right now.
How are you holding up?
I'm mostly okay during the day (I can distract myself with work or hobbies), but at night is when it all hits me. I'll be okay though, I've just started reading book after book after book in bed until sleep comes.
I also know plenty of people who've been through much much worse, and they all tell me that time really does tend to heal everything. So I've got to be patient I guess.
Another thought that helps is something she herself said, in that she did not wish to be pitied by me. Someone also told me that it's not my job to "rescue" her, so I can maybe try to free myself of the guilt by pursuing that line of thought, and trying to focus on my own happiness.
Btw, thanks for carrying on through this comment chain with me, it's really helped me process some things - it sounds like you yourself have experience in this topic
Yes my experience tells me that time does heal it, but it requires emotional work.
She's her own woman and you should listen to her and your friends. We are all just human and none of us are perfect. You don't sound like the kind of person who would hurt people they love on purpose.
What helps me is to take time away from work and hobbies and the dopamine hits. I go out the door and follow my intuition, not my mind. Then I find a place to stand or to sit and I stay there for as long as I am able to be patient. It has never failed to help me.
Sometimes you just have to wake up and look at the ceiling for a while. And to be brave enough to face your feelings, by directly experiencing them. The only way I can make it go away is by respecting it and giving it the space it asks for within me. That is, I allow myself to feel guilt, or shame, or fear. That's when it melts away and I can find what I've been looking for.
That's interesting. I definitely do not like to be alone with my thoughts at the moment and actively seek distraction, but maybe I should just find a quiet space and see what's going on inside. Thanks for this
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i worry our species is irreversibly doomed. honestly, i feel certain we are yet i refuse to act as though i believe it. if i give in and give up and sit back and wait for the worst to come then i wonβt be able to say βi triedβ to whichever younger generation asks the rest of us why we did nothing and let the human race go extinct. climate change will likely bring about the end but any number of things could happen before then, and capitalism will have spearheaded all of them.
I often get stuck in a frustrating loop of thought when I ponder the point of all of this.
Fascism & climate collapse.
Death.
Not mine, but my parents are aging, and my chickens have a short life span compared to some animals. So I know damn good and well I'm losing someone or something I care a great deal about, and almost certainly in the next decade if not sooner.
Also have a damn chipped tooth and my damn dentist has been on vacation since before Christmas. Wouldn't be a worry, but the damn thing irritates my tongue.
Being unceremoniously fired and homeless.
My cancer returning.
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