I wouldn't send money. I would buy beer and play a video game instead.

If we were close, I might send a fuck you card.

I wouldn't have done this, but I do kinda get it.

We had a 100 person wedding. Friends, close family, and Aunts/Uncles (no cousins, extended relatives). There definitely were people interested in giving us gifts even though they weren't invited. I told them basically the same thing as this card. It was annoying having to field those requests at the same time as prepping for the wedding, so I could see why someone would send this card preemptively.

I feel like it would only be trashy if you were really expecting money from these people.

A non-invitation is worth a non-gift.

As much as we would like to congratulate the bride and groom, but we are too busy being kept in your hearts.

My wife and I sent something similar to this when we got married during COVID and could only have 19 total people there (including us), but was about meeting us after for the reception

There were 2 sent out that said the gift thing instead, both rich assholes who weren't related to us that would feel guilty and obligated to send us expensive shit or a decent chunk of change, and it worked so that's a win for us lol

Doing this to normal people would be an absolute dick move

Send back a generic Dollar Store congrats card with a $1 bill stapled.

That's why recycling bins were invented. Everyone saying they'd send a 50p gift, or correct the spelling and send it back... It's not even worth that much effort

I would send this reply - "As much as we would love to send you a wedding gift, we have been overwellmed in the upcoming months with wedding receptions that we have to attend and of course provide the happy couples gifts"

Honestly, I'd probably prefer getting this to a wedding invitation for most of the people I know. Of course I want to be at my brother's wedding. But he's already married, and I hope not to attend another until (ha!) my own

Just don't send them anything

Would just send this to popular, rich people in hope they cannot remember if they know me or not

I'm more offended by their misspelling of "accommodate" and lack of punctuation in the second sentence. What a terrible way to start their life together.

I keep reading that not as the venue doesn't have enough space for everyone, but as the venue has banned certain people. I'm really hoping I'm wrong and it is a space issue.

Well, my wedding gifts are usually proportional to what I imagine the couple have already spent for me to be there.

Someone who throws a wedding with accommodation and everything else all taken care of is going to get a bigger gift than one where I'm just invited to the evening do.

I guess the invite cost something to send so I suppose their gift would probably be about 50p max, if I could even bring myself to send anything.

Funnily if I wasn't invited to a wedding of a friend for whatever reason and they didn't send a card like this, I'd probably be more inclined to get a token gift as a congratulations anyway.