Being born into a life of wage slavery and renting.
Thanks mom and dad.
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The most formatting event in everyone life nowadays, and the one most negatively impactful is being born poor, that is age zero.
Young enough to sleep with your teacher
Growing up in a house with sa at any age. For me I raw dogged life for my adult years blocking it out but stuff catches up and can be catastrophic.
What is SA?
trigger warning
sexual abuse
I feel that. I'm about to be 23 and now it's on my mind again for some reason and idk what to do.
I grew up in a hoarder house and I'm pretty sure I ruined my life by teaching myself to do the dishes as a kid. I was expected to keep the place clean for the rest of my childhood, and that turned into me being the only one to do chores of any kind. I was actually guilt tripped into skipping college so I'd be available to drive my sister to classes.
So yeah forget all the drugs and murder and shit. The real worst thing a child can do is wash a dish.
Having success in sports, entertainment or anything that pays out real money. There's not a lot of happy stories about child stars.
Being born homeless.
To be fair, OP is asking about bad/poor/wrong decisions, the last sentence of their post specifically says it's not about situations that are inflicted upon them. No one gets to choose where they are born.
You're never too young to die, so the saying goes.
Drugs at any age. Sure you can get clean but it takes a very pacific type of person to do that and there are more people who have failed then ones who have succeeded. I made the mistake of using drugs at a young age and it has destroyed my life beyond repair. If there are any young people reading this just remember it's not worth it. Trust me nobody hates drugs more then drugheads.
Any age? Sure someone can drug and rape a 5 year old. But even with 8 it's hard to get the cash for a proper addiction. You mind sharing about what age you fucked up to calibrate my compass?
In the end, this was about self inflicted damage. Not someone abusing you.
Well, no one does date grape for fun. No one's addicted to date grape and it doesn't matter if you have the money as long as you have the taste for it. I started doing drugs at age 14. Things like weed, benadryl, LSD, glue and shooms. In the long run I shouldn't have done it but I will admit I do have some nostalgia for doing them with my old friends.
Being conceived by shitty people is more than enough to have a life arguably ruined permanently before it even began.
So much can happen to ruin a person's life at any stage, even pre-conception.
OP is asking about wrong/bad/poor choices etc, the last sentence of their post specifically says it's not about situations that are inflicted upon them.
You're right; those were poor choices by the parents.
Really, the question is more about "When do we stop attributing bad choices to the parent and start attributing them to the child?"
Because babies and toddlers can make lots of stupid decisions.
I would argue that babies and toddlers wouldn't be held accountable for their bad choices, even though they could foreseeably be life changing for the worst, if they stuck their hand in a blender for example. Although you could argue that in this case a parent/carer should not leave a young child near a dangerous object.
Most people would agree that a person that is fully accountable when they are considered an adult, we usually apply the arbitrary age of 18, although I do find it strange that a person that is 17 years, 364 days, 23 hours, 59 minutes and 59 seconds old is a child and one second later they're magically an adult.
There is definitely a grey area in the early teens or possibly even younger where you can definitely make a decision that ruins your life. An example that comes to mind is when two ten year old boys stole a toddler, then tortured, sexually assaulted and murdered him. They were judged as having the ability to act with criminal intent, found guilty and sentenced to prison.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_James_Bulger?wprov=sfla1
A ten year old can rush out into the road and become paralyzed for life.
Whatever the country's age of criminal conviction (typically 18). It's hard enough to get a job WITHOUT a criminal record.
Depending on the country and/or crime, a juvenile record will also prevent being able to work in certain jobs/industries.
I remember as a kid, I met these other kids that would drink from the side of the street. That sewer water was full of nasty including gas and oil runoff from the roads and who knows what else.
I also had an ex that would drink the chemicals under the sink as a tiny kid.
That's crazy... where did you grow up?
Los angeles
Oh, yall need to clean up over there... what do the politicians in LA keep doing with all the money meant for the homeless issues?
I moved out of that mess. lol just bought land in another state.
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