Well it was only twice in the 20+ years I've been going to bars, and I don't shy away from a gay bar.
this post was submitted on 25 Oct 2024
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All of the comments here are reminding me of how life was 20 years ago and also before I was married with kids.
I genuinely donβt fucking care how feminine somebody thinks something Iβm doing is if Iβm comfortable or enjoying myself. Iβll drink pink drinks all day if it fucking tastes good LMLML bro.
Around 2010ish I was thoroughly enjoying some Bells Two Hearted and other IPAs. My brother (2 years older) tried arguing that bud light is man's beer, and my beers were fruity and girly. It certainly doesn't matter to me, but the irony of choosing bud light, out of all the macro beers, is just π¨βπ³π>
Ah yes, IPAs, the least manly of beers.
I remember kids telling me I was crossing my legs in a gay way. I asked them who said so, and they said their teacher. That was the first time I realized some bullies grow up to be teachers.
As a kid I was told if you eat scrambled eggs for dinner you are gay. It affected me longer than I care to admit.
What possibly was the logic here?
In the 90s, "gay" had become a catch-all term for "thing I think is stupid". I've heard LGBTQ people intentionally unironically use the term in this manner.
In jr. high i was called gay because I dressed semi decent. Jeans with a t-shirt a blazer was apparently too much for them lol
Why would you want to wear a blazer for school outside of important days?
maybe they like the look?
I did like the like and I looked pretty solid in my opinion. I usually wore it when it was like fall with a little chill in the air
ETA: it was a very casual blazer. Not wearing a suit jacket or something lol
I've had a colleague say that tea is "homo water". I'm aro/ace, but most of my colleagues don't know that. Similarly a straight colleague of mine got mocked for wearing pink (but not feminine) shoes. After some of these incidents we've kinda started pushing back against this nonsense by deliberately triggering these people and calling them out, which has worked so far.
To anyone who thinks tea isn't for cishet men I have four words:
Tea. Earl Grey. Hot.
π³π³ Hey, I'm a cishet man but thinking about joining jean-luc for some tea, earl grey, hot, really gives me the vapors.
I would recommend that anyone concerned with privacy either use a burner account or not answer these kinds of questions.
While statistically I'm sure there are many straight men here, doxxing and other forms of identification are enabled by combining different breadcrumbs of information.
Sssssuuuuuuurrrrre....
But I really don't think Lemmy is big or widespread enough for people to recognize each other based on random info and a username.
Doxxing generally happens because someone wants to identify you, not because random people accidentally figure out who you are. A doxxer will attempt to extract details from your account's comment history and see if you have other accounts based on username or specific references.
Uhh what?
Your question is for "straight males", so those answering it are implicitly saying, " I am a straight male".
This is a subset of the population, so if you wanted to identify a user here, this would be a ckue. It would be useless on its own, but I'd they share more clues over time, they may reveal themselves accidentally to someone trying to fix them. Examples:
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The city or state they live in.
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Their age range.
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Their ethnic identity.
Just that much info, which people will easily expose if they answer questions like this, could be enough to identify someone. There are only so many straight 23 year old dudes from Guam living in a particular suburb of Baltimore.
This advice feels a lot like something that should be stuck on a wall rather than posted as a comment in a conversational subreddit. It's kind of like reminding people on posts about alcohol and partying not to drink and drive - unprompted. Reminders like this are great, but setting and context are important, otherwise you drive people away from the conversation.
Comments with warning likes mine should be stickied at the top of all posts premised on people providing personal information in order to post.
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