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A follow up from my older asklemmy post, saying goodbye to a teacher who helped me a lot through my stuff, was thinking maybe chocolate, but one of the dudes said that it’s not a very good idea, I was thinking maybe a perfume/cologne? What do you guys suggest? She is in probably in her early 20s if it helps, and I am in senior high, damn this is getting weirder and weirder, I just want to run away lol

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[–] [email protected] -2 points 8 months ago

I have gifted teachers Cognac before. Some decent bottle of liquor if they're into that is fine. But early 20s might not be the target audience for brown spirits.

Make sure they're not alcoholic or a recovering one.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 8 months ago

Gift certificate. That's something that can NEVER be mistaken for romance.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 8 months ago (1 children)

As a teacher, I treasure all of the heart-felt notes and letters students have left me over the years. If you want to give something that shows them how important they are to you, write them a letter.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

SOURCE!

Edit: I guess I should clarify. I'm saying that this is the ultimate source as an answer to this question. I'm not ordering this person to cite a source. Sorry for the interruption.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 8 months ago

Lmao at the perfume and chocolates. You somehow beelined to the most Valentines related gifts possible.

The suggestion for a letter or card saying how much they helped you is the best idea. If you don’t feel up to writing, then think about a professional gift, like a fancy pen or something to sit on their desk. Don’t spend a lot of money, that makes it weird. Less than $30.

I’m so glad we had this talk at this stage of your life before you gave your first boss a fine bottle of perfume and then had a bewildering conversation with HR, lol.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 8 months ago (3 children)

Fart in a jar, decorate it all pretty and shit.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Shout out to mods_are_assholes for your amazing comment.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Damn, gonna take some time to get a good smelling one

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

Try submerging the jar completely in the tub before capturing. Pure fart that way, no air.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Unless you’re living in a horny anime I don’t think you have much to worry about with what they think. However, don’t give your teacher perfume—that’s insane and inappropriate for anyone outside of a romantic partner / close friend.

Write them a thank-you note and get them a Starbucks gift card.

[–] [email protected] 66 points 8 months ago (2 children)

A heartfelt, handwritten thank-you letter telling them they're a great teacher and how they positively impacted your life.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

This. My sister in law teaches and keeps all the letters she gets from her students. It's stuff like that that keeps teachers going.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] -3 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Suggestions here getting weirder and weirder ಠ_ಠ

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Coffee and tea are so much more normal than perfume or chocolate that I can’t even. I’ve gotten coffee from a coworker before, and appreciated it. I could imagine giving tea to one if I knew they liked that. It’s safe, professional, and a crowd pleaser.

I wouldn’t even hazard a gift of perfume to my wife without some careful research first—too many ways it can be construed as “you smell” unless there is some sort of precedent such as knowing what she already wears.

This post has been gold. Thanks for sharing your struggles with us.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I have a feeling that I am even worse than ‘naive’ when it comes to this sort of stuff, thank god I decided to ask here before doing something stupid, but then again there was no other option anyway

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago

A basic rule for professional gifts is to avoid anything that goes on the body, or anything with an effect that could be construed as “sensual”. By sensual I mean overly enticing to the senses—such as chocolate, perfume, or silk. It implies that you are seeking to make their body feel something, and as you get older, that is often equated with eroticism. Looking at commercials for the product helps too—chocolate commercials equate chocolate with sex almost every time.

People can be picky about food, or may have intolerances, so that is risky. Coffee and tea are associated with productivity, which is why they are professional to give.

If you have any female friends, they can be a helpful guide when trying to navigate how another woman might react to something. Good luck soldier! It’s hard out there.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Bruh, coffee or tea is way better and more appropriate than perfume. Think about it, if you gift a set of nice teabags, it's a nice pick-me-up for your teacher to enjoy between classes

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Perfume definitely seems worse, I have actually given some to my male teachers when I was younger and dumber lol so I thought this would work, coffee/tea seems kinda weird tbh, but I frankly have no idea anymore 🤷🏼‍♂️

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I’m telling you man. Homemade cookies.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I gotta then learn how to make great cookies within a week ¯_(ツ)_/¯, I am considering 3 options rn

  1. Gift card (Seems the most appropriate, but idk if physical ones still exist where I live)
  2. Chocolate (Easiest to get)
  3. Muffins (Seems to be the overall best, but it would kinda be a hassle)

Gonna think about this tmrw, I am tired AF RN, finals approaching and it somewhat sucks

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Bro, lose the chocolate. It will be your downfall.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago
  1. Muffins (Seems to be the overall best, but it would kinda be a hassle)

The hassle is what makes it a good gift. Just sayin. Worry about finals more than stressing about what to get her. 🙂

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