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Oh she was hard committed to riding that rocket down the delusional path for as long as it would take her.

Weirdos like hanging out with weirdos. The normies are off doing boring shit instead of commenting on Lemmy.

Yup. It's always good to keep in mind that some issues are hidden and that your perception of someone is different to who they truly are, as OP said. But there's no Universal Law of Conservation of Personal Problems that dictates that everyone must have the same level of significant problems in their life. Some people have less, and some have more. It usually averages out but there will be people on either end of the spectrum having a very bad or good time.

There are just so many factors that go into a person's experience of life. Even something as simple as being on the older side or the younger side when you first start school can have a giant impact.

When our youngest was just at the age where she was allowed to get up and turn on the TV by herself and watch something while we were sleeping, 9-11 happened. I left the house early for work that morning. When my wife got up, our daughter was terrified. They had repeatedly interrupted Nickelodeon to show the planes hitting the buildings, and she was too young to understand that it was the same planes being shown over and over - she thought planes were falling out of the sky all over and crashing into buildings. She was waiting for one to hit our house. It took a long time before we realized that's what she was thinking. At 27, it's still left lasting issues. If she had been younger, she wouldn't have seen it, and if she had been older she would have likely understood better.

It's true. The Alot does appreciate the benefits of having money, though too much of it is, well, an Alot of a different color entirely.

You should read the book "The Body Keeps the Score"

I think trauma and hardship in general isn't additive, rather multiplicative or exponential.

Like, once there's a "core" trauma, small every day issues seems bigger and harder to deal with, and that kinda builds on itself so any new hardship seems bigger and bigger and so on.

I’m convinced that the vast majority of us are just canon-balling between traumatic event to traumatic event, with no real time to stop and process.

Much of that is just life though. I've always wondered if this misunderstanding is one of the fundamental sources of many people's anxiety.

So we inevitably freak out over something small, without realizing that the level of emotion we feel is a reflection of unresolved trauma, and not indicative of whatever the triggering event is.

For some reason most people assume the "good times" are the default and the "traumatic event" is the outlier. I don't believe that is the case.

The "traumatic event" is the default, the "good times" are the outlier.

So when a traumatic event happens the question isn't "Why did this happen to me?" but rather the statement "That was a really great run of temporary 'good times', now lets deal with this event".

Thats when having money comes in. Many years ago a family member gave me a saged piece of advice when I was young "If you have a problem that can be solved by money, and you have money, you don't have a problem". A flat tire, for many, can be a traumatic event listed above. It can mean finding money you don't have for a new tire, loss of income from missing work, impacts to your family from not being able to pick up your kid from school/daycare, or loss of advancement at work from being considered "unreliably" and being passed over for promotion. Those can all trigger the consequences of "traumatic event". However, if you have a couple hundred bucks unallocated to your name you can immediately lay your hands on and spend, a flat tire isn't a problem, its a mild annoyance.

So having money doesn't remove the "canon-balling between traumatic event to traumatic event", but it removes many events that would otherwise be traumatic leaving you with less trauma overall, and keeping your capacity to deal with the trauma mostly in check with the understanding that life will always give you more as time passes. This also makes you very much appreciate the outlier "good times" when you're experiencing them, because you know they will end.