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For me, it's disappearing. That someday something will happen to me and no one will ever know what it was and where I am. That I will become one of those mysteries you see online and on TV shows. Whenever I think about it I feel nothing but dread.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Medical needles/injections, and that moment when we die. Not death itself, but that moment when the lights go out. I feel like I'll know and be very scared. Also mold for some reason. I can't bring myself to touch it or clean it, so I just have to prevent it or, worse case, chuck whatever has the mold.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My biggest fear is something happening to my kids. If something happened to them my hair would turn white, I would curl up in a ball and die.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

nearly everything unfortunately. my therapist tells me my amygdala is over active

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Are you afraid of mustard?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Heights, s.n.a.k.e.s, clowns, and being kidnapped and getting sick or not having feminine products while I'm locked in a place without adequate facilities. Also, the vastness of things like the ocean or the grand canyon. And that I'll wake up from the dream, be 12, have to relive my life, and wont know how to get back to this exact spot.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Having to work for another 20 years.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Time. Imagine not just you disappearing but all humans. Given enough time absolutely nothing lasts.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Being born. Don't want to make that mistake again.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Change. Particularly the kind I can't deal with.

The past year or two in the online landscape has been turbulent and has shown me that I fall back to the familiar as a coping mechanism. And if that familiar should be unavailable... Ouch. ;_;

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

If you can't control the change, why would you treat yourself as if it's your fault? Change is inevitable. Learn to be at peace with yourself and exterior changes won't affect how you feel.

I would suggest a few books for you if you're interested.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Intolerance.

Aka, the lack of willingness to understand one another — I mean, the ability to discuss and work together toward a common goal, even with people we (deeply) disagree with — and the hostility towards whatever dares being/liking/talking/thinking different.

This is a not only a sad dead-end, imho this is also the very end of any society and of any civilization when the only other persons we can tolerate around us are exact copies of ourselves. People behaving, dressing, talking and thinking exactly like we do — or like we want them to.

This frightens me way much than anything else because I see no way to escape it and, even more terrifying to me, I see no place anywhere where one could escape it. Intolerance is growing everywhere, and it's growing fast.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

Heights, depths; but not consistently.

After considerable reflection, I realised that a lack of a margin for error is what truly terrifies me.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The idea of living as if my life hadn't really started yet and then one day realizing I'm old and I wasted my life.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

There is no changing the future or past actions. The only time you can change anything is this very moment. If you focus on what you may or may not have tomorrow, you aren't living today.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That I don't know that my memories are true, or that I might just suddenly experience eternal suffering.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Yes, this! Also, I have a fear of that I could have just appeared in a simulation, with all of my memories preloaded. It feels so eerie not being able to know if I appeared right this second, or if we're in a simulation or not.

Actually, the probabilities that we're in a simulation seem quite high. Imagine a universe, where there are 10 technologically advanced enough civilizations that start simulations. But why would the start just one simulation? Why not millions of them? And then the people inside said simulations also start them. So all-in-all, there are billions of simulations. It would be more probable that we're in one of them, rather than that we're in a real universe.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Getting old. Because it's like old people are just ignored. Nobody thinks they are good looking or interesting and they are mostly just tolerated, not appreciated.

That in combination with body starting to break down is not a great feeling.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

And its because of this real lack of quality care for the elderly (outside of the wealthy elderly) that I workout and eat right as much as I can. I probably won't be able to afford a good retirement home so I need to stay as health and fit as I can for as long as I can.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

When you get old, there are often other old people to hang out with and they mostly find each other interesting and appreciate them. You'll be ok and you'll think young people are naive and you'll laugh at their obsession with superficial things. Medical issues are real. Take care of your back, knees, and teeth.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Everything. Everything scares me. If I stop and think about anything in particular, I slowly realize how frightening that thing really is.

Cat. Sits with its ass on your face while you sleep.

Dog. Eats its own vomit and greets others by sniffing their ass, then tries to lick you.

shivers

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I have lived with cats, none has ever sat on my face.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

There, there... I'm sure some cat will sit on your face someday.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

Grey aliens. Yep, I know they're almost certainly not real. They freak me the frack out. It's undoubtedly all the UFO stuff I read as a kid about abductions and such. A very petite friend once threatened to dress up as one in a realistic costume to scare me in the night. I begged her not to for her personal safety: I'm certain I would not react in a safe or rational way.

Being alone at night creeps me out because of this. Driving alone in a remote, low population locale? Horrifying.

Nevertheless, I still read up on stories and other media about the paranormal. Why am I like this? No idea.

It hasn't ruined my life or anything. I've spent time alone far away from people, when I had to. I can go places at night. It's just something that creeps into my mind sometimes. I function as a grown ass man, but I still get the creeps about it when I'm alone. I don't know that I'll ever completely shake it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Statistical chances of being killed by grey aliens based on current statistics: 0%.

Statistical chance of colorectal cancer: 4%

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You should definitely never ever watch The Fourth Kind.

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[–] [email protected] -3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (5 children)

Almost certainly not real... :)

I think there is an extreamly high probability they are real, considering it's been millions of eye witness reports by now.

I guess it's easier to assume every single one of those are just wrong. But if even one of them is right, we have visitors.

I don't even understand why people find it so difficult to believe. I keep hearing "yeah they can't travel here because distance", as if humans somehow has all the knowledge about space travel despite hardly even understanding how to get to the moon. :)

Actually we even forgot how to get to the moon. That's how much we care about space travel. Yet we are experts at it, somehow. :)

It's dumb, which is why I assume it has to do with psychological safety mechanisms and that's why people can't think rationally about this.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Yeah it's other people who lack rationality

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

I read somewhere that so much of the Saturn V development wasn't documented properly, or the documentation has been lost, that it's hard to easily build that system anymore. In that sense, I guess, we've forgotten how to do it. Obviously, the math and physics are still understood, so it should be as simple as designing a rocket of equal or greater capacity, and it appears we have.

Apparently, the Artemis I mission already put an unmanned mission with the Orion spacecraft through to orbit the moon and return safely to the Earth. They're planning a crewed flyby in 2025 and Artemis III is projected to land sometime later this decade.

It's a crime I didn't know that before looking things up about the Saturn V.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Dental pain. Experienced it once and that was enough to give me lifetime nightmares. Absolute horror!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago

Dental procedures helped me understand that most of us would quickly buckle under torture

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Oh fuck yes. I had a removed wisdom tooth get infected, and the dentist said "due to all the pus, the anesthesic won't work as well, but don't worry, we'll go as fast as possible".

It's a phrase that features frequently in my nightmares.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That and the "You'll feel some pressure" lie.

Yeah, no. I know how pressure feels and it is not that!

I am female therefore many medical procedures that should absolutely use some kind of anesthesia, do not because "it'll be over in a pinch" "it's mild discomfort" etc. IUD insertion is a big fear of mine.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Fwiw, my IUD track record is 1 easy insertion, 1 easy removal, 1 "that wasn't fun" removal and 1 "maybe giving birth would be preferable" insertion.

Your mileage may vary.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 week ago (9 children)

I was in this crystal clear cliffside cove and could see in front of me maybe 10 m or so but the Rock only went out about 5 and then just plunged into the abyss. and after exploring the coastline I swim out about 10 ft past the rocks and realized that I could see nothing but the deepest blue I'd ever seen.

literally anything could be just a few body lengths away watching me were sensing me, it was almost overwhelming.

I felt this visceral terror, that I've felt before in the middle of reading a Lovecraft story.

very much looking into the eye of something unknowable.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Oh shit, just reading about this scares me. It must have been so terrifying, not knowing what's in the deep water

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

beaches are usually sandy or have detritus floating, but this was just stark clear, perfect blue getting deeper and deeper as it devoured the light.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I understand thalassophobia. The deep is scary. Funny thing is, though, I can handle being on a ship or flying over water, even though I think about how far down it might be.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

yep, I'm good with either of those. and I love swimming far out as long as the bottom is still there.

It's once the the Earth falls away that I don't want to be there.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

Oh fuck no! Dark water is a big fear of mine. I like swimming, scuba diving, snorkeling BUT those dark patches in the water make me truly feel paralyzed and electrified at the same time brbrbrbr. One time I went to the Yucatan penninsula to swim in a couple of cenotes and boy did it make my body shiver! Let alone the meaning of cenotes in mayan cosmogony and what not but the pure sheer terror that that black water gave me was like nothing else.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Humanity. I know it's kind of self-defeating or something, but humanity just scares the shit out of me.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You aren't stuck in traffic, you are traffic.

Your comment makes it seem as if you exist outside of humanity. Unless you're an alien or a robot, be the change you want to see.

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