In my opinion this is a good excuse to go full Karen on the place. Demand to talk to a manager. Just don't go al REEEEE on them. But do feel free to make a spectacle. Call them out for the races bullshit.
this post was submitted on 08 Aug 2024
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There may have been an innocent reason for the cashier's behavior that had nothing to do with skin color. I had saw something similar where it may have been interpreted at racism but really the person was incompetent at their job. Either way good on you for caring
While this might not be racist if the cashier had other reasons to close the line as the comments in this thread may suggest, it is a sort of death by a thousand paper cuts for minorities that go through this. Actual racists like to hide their racism in plausible deniability. So it makes it difficult for anyone to call them out. Someone in the comments said they “hate when people assume it’s racism” but I feel like they haven’t considered how often BIPOC ppl have to make that call. It’s such a mental load and it sucks.
People also go through this when it comes to sexual harassment. Like, if someone puts their hands on your waist to move past you in a narrow hallway, you have no idea whether they’re acting innocently or not. But if they do that to no one else except you… it starts looking sus. That’s how a lot of this bad behavior goes. It’s not as simple as giving everyone the benefit of the doubt, because bad actors take advantage of your doubt to act how they will.
So don’t assume the cashier was being racist, but don’t assume they weren’t either. Be suspicious of bs like that, and act accordingly.
possible that I misunderstood the situation
This one. Carry on.
Do you have a different understanding of the situation?
Guy said I'm going on break f Everyoneon the line after this one guy. Seen it happened to me.
"Oh I'm sorry I have a few more things to get." Then buy the stuff the dude had behind you and do not break eye contact with the cashier.
If the guy behind wants to pay you back let them.
Edit: I misread the typo ~~Also Boy is considered by some as a derogatory term especially when said by a white man about a black man~~
https://readerandtext.sunygeneseoenglish.org/2019/11/07/racism-in-the-word-boy/
Ah, "buy" was a typo but it wasn't meant to be "boy". I know better than that. It was meant to be "guy".
I assumed it was a typo for guy, not boy.
Could go either way to be honest and not everyone knows it could be problematic. I'll edit my response if/when the OP clarifies the typo.
I'd like to clarify I'm not calling the OP racist in any case.
"Oh, I'm sorry, you have only a couple of things, please go first".
But it's normal to freeze when shocked, and if it was not racism I do feel like the cashier would have just asked the guy behind you to put the sign after his stuff. I would have interpreted this just like you, and was a cashier for a long time. If there is a short line, you ask the last person to place the sign. If there is a long line, all bets off, it has to stop somewhere.
If it was just the one person, and only those three items, I'd just tell them to chuck them on and I'll grab it to save the hassle. I honestly wouldn't have considered racism as a factor, just that the checkout person was being a proper cunt, so taking their win away is a win-win for everyone on the other side of the counter. The appropriate thing for staff to do is pass the closed sign and ask the guy behind you to put it down, so he's the last.
But if there was still a line, often that happens because the person is long due for break and busting or hungry, and every time they try close more people pull in. So you could be looking into it too much if that's the case.
You need to make up something that creates a connection between the black man and you. For example, could he be your uncle, your brother-in-iaw, your daughter's boyfriend...
Now you ask the cashier loud and clear, but very kindly, to serve this man, and make it clear that you came together with your daughter's boyfriend and you are going to leave together but if he needs to wait in another queue again, then you would need to wait for him as well, and therefore could he please?
This way you have destroyed the discrimination scheme. You made it impossible for the cashier to give you an advantage and that man a disadvantage.
After all is done, you can still tell him that you have seen what he tried, and next time you would inform the store manager and maybe you even say a few things more.
"Excuse me, but he was in line."
"I'm sorry, but we're closing this register, as I have a legally mandated 12-minute break."
"Oh, sorry, I thought you were just being racist."
"So when my breaktime hits, if there are ethnic minorities in line, that cancels out my legally protected right to have a break? Where'd you hear this man, because first off, that sounds racist, and secondly, the union is very clear on how breaks are taken. By having to explain this to you, I've already lost two minutes of my breaktime. Thank you. It's notl like this job is stressful and I'm sure you know better how our store operates."
"Hey man, that was your decision to make. I was just telling you how it appeared. Enjoy your break (or don't, I'm not your boss)."
"So you're calling me a racist, for no reason? Cool. Here's your change mister, now I've really got to go or I don't get to eat or piss all day. Deepest apologies."
"Yeah, I don't think I'll be shopping again at a place that doesn't let their employees piss. You should quit for a place that treats you better. Also, I hope one day you can overcome your racism..”
"Mam, we have scheduled breaks. Mine started three minutes ago, when I closed the register. You are preventing me from having a break, with unfounded accusations of racism. I can show you the break schedule. Here. It says 10.15, 'Jack' s break.' It's now 10.18. I have to get back at a scheduled time as well. I sincerely hope you will take your business elsewhere."
"Sir, this is a Wendy's."
"Do... do you need me to call someone for you?"
"Oh, I'm sorry, he was here before me..."
Yeah. If I were thinking fast that day this is the play.
I always win every argument... in hindsight.
Racist for sure. If he'd been called away he'd have said something.
Dipshits that think otherwise?
You know the kind of suburbanite that pats themselves on the back for how progressive they are and locks their car door when a black person walks by?
If he'd been called away he'd have said something.
I've had registers close before me all the time and the cashiers don't start profoundly explaining why. And I'm pretty sure they weren't being racist towards me.
Have you ever worked at a grocery store?
Yes, as a teenager. There's a big difference between closing a lane to further customers and walking away from someone who's already in line, and I do not believe you're too stupid or ignorant to know the difference.
Okay, so worked at a grocery store, but not a supermarket, I take it.
In a supermarket, the first register for instance is always closed while there are people in line, because the worker wouldn't get a break otherwise, as it's the first register and people tend towards it of there's not much line.
There's literally nothing suggesting racism in what happened.
Oh, my bad, you're just completely lacking in reading comprehension. Good luck with that.
I don't think you understands how shops work.
Does mommy do you all your shopping, then?
I can't say I'm particularly surprised that's the best you've got. People usually use their own insecurities to blindly attack others.
What am I supposed to do when you start with something as childish as "lol you can't read", because you actually don't know how grocery stores work and you don't have a reason for why this would've been racist?
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