Blahaj Lemmy Meta

I don't believe in gods

capitalised pronouns are on a fundamental level as valid as any other gendered pronouns. fucking up can happen but not accepting OPs pronouns because they are unusual is shit

~~i'm still blocking OP tho because no gods no masters~~

honestly deities are also fundamentally ok. just dont be a cunt, but thats true for everyone.

i personally find the words god and deity a bit loaded with superiority, but thats on me

That thread was removed by a community mod and I can't find any examples of deliberate misgendering in remaining posts.

I will action deliberate misgendering, but in this case, the posts have already been removed.

After reading the community’s pinned “Rules Breakdown” post, I can easily see how Your post violated their rules. 🤷‍♀️ And as another poster in this thread points out, it appears You’re just on a time-out, not a perma-ban.

Also, I will capitalize “you” for You as an act of politeness, but I very strongly disagree with characterizing this as “misgendering”, even after reading Your “Introduction to capitalised pronouns” post. Yes, grammar is socially defined and arbitrary. For example, the only reason African-American Vernacular English is labelled “improper” is because so many (white) people with power say so — there’s nothing inherently worse or better about it. However, it’s still necessary to reach consensus on the meaning of words, else no one could be understood.

Capitalization of Your pronoun is clearly very important to You, and it would be thus be unkind of me to refuse to accommodate You when it’s pointed out, but English is not a language where every pronoun is gendered. The capitalized version is an honorific form of the same pronoun, not a different pronoun altogether. And generally speaking, the use of honorifics (“sir” and “ma’am” being the most common ones) is becoming far less common these days. Perhaps it’s because honorifics are most frequently used to establish dominance and subservience roles, whether that be in customer service roles (“yes, sir”) or governing roles (“yes, Your Honour” or “yes, Your Majesty”). To borrow Your own example, even many Christians now refer to their god as “he” rather than “He” in written language. And of course, those of us who totally reject the notion of gods certainly don’t. Your insistence on capitalization as respect for Your divinity makes me genuinely uncomfortable as someone who doesn’t believe in divinity at all and certainly shouldn’t feel subservient to You.

Is this bait?

The mod log shows the ban was for violating rule two of the community (both for the post and user). Seems like there were others who had comments removed and were banned for 6d as well around the same time. Perhaps the mod didn't realize who You were and was banning on autopilot to clean things up in the community?

Also, FWIW, in my client (Alexandrite). and from what I can see in Your screenshots, pronouns aren't showing up next to Your username where the comment is. I'm absolutely not defending anyone transphobic, but not everyone is going to click through to the profile to see is pronouns are in the profile. I wanted to let You know about that incase that's some setting on aussie.zone or something that could be fixed and make things better.

I gotcha Fam for those embedded pics

In order:

I'd assume that the mod in question (being a mod) sees a ton of posts and comments from a ton of users and simply didn't check Your profile before making the comment there.

Or hell it could have been their autocorrect dropping the capital (which mine does pretty often)

But from what I can see it's also a single comment. Don't assume malice when ignorance can easily explain it.

And that mod is really quick to ban people, hell they banned me last week less than a minute after I made a comment on one of their posts simply for saying that dems and the GQP weren't the same (their post was implying that they were the same). The reason they banned me was for being a "liberal".

Personally I'd recommend a solution to help weed out transphobia vs ignorance: put Your‡ pronouns at the end of your username so that it's easy for people to know and talk to you how you'd like. This is fairly easy to do on Lemmy as flairs at the end of usernames don't really exist around these parts.

‡ I literally had to go back and manually change this to a capital Y after my autocorrect changed it.

Edit: Missed some caps.

Jesus fucking christ.

That's pretty blatant transphobia on the part of the moderator.

I’ve never heard of using capitalized pronouns, would You mind sharing a bit more about why You use them?

No pressure at all, You obviously don’t have to explain or justify Yourself or Your identity to me or anyone, but I’ve done a bit of googling and the only references I can find are to deities and i genuinely would love to know more