Autism

Gonna be blunt here, all of this sounds like not your problem. If his scooter gets stolen or keyed or whatever because he left it out front that’s not your problem. If it becomes unusable because some rednecks fucked with it that also isn’t your problem and it’s what renter’s insurance (and possibly a security camera) is for. If he doesn’t use his car enough that isn’t your problem either. These things may frustrate and annoy you, but they aren’t your problems because you aren’t responsible for making sure your roommate lives his life ‘correctly.’

It sounds like he got exactly what you suggested, but shaped like a scooter instead of a motorcycle, because any ‘motorcycle’ that doesn’t go fast enough to require a license is going to top out at around or under 30 mph (depending on local laws). It’s not going to be any safer driving on backroads in something shaped like a motorcycle vs a scooter.

In short, no, I don’t think that not putting the scooter in the back is something he’s doing because he’s autistic. He’s probably not doing it because there’s no pressing safety reason to do so and because it’s slightly more inconvenient.

The energy I’m getting from this, and it might be different in reality but this is what the post is offering, is very “I’m constantly questioning him to the point where he probably just has no idea if what I’m saying is valuable or just me not trusting him to handle himself.” It doesn’t matter if you’re looking out for him if the only thing you’re actually showing is judgement.

And the parking around back thing…you say you don’t care but the very first thing you have to say about it is that it’s not socially acceptable. And what’s the problem, then? Is someone going to egg your house over it or are you just worried that someone who isn’t worth your time anyway might have a negative opinion of you?

It’s good that you’re worried about him but a) he’s an adult who makes his own choices and you ultimately can’t force him to do anything and b) if that worry presents as judgement and a barrage of unsolicited “advice” it doesn’t fucking matter, one little bit, what your intention supposedly is. Neurotypical people and their game of expecting mind-reading while communicating poorly and unclearly is tiring as hell and he might just not give a rat’s ass about your opinion anymore.

Everything you’ve written is about you not wanting to deal with something. You seem to care more about your personal image and the impact you’ll feel if he gets upset rather than something bad happening to him. It’s not his fault you can’t communicate clearly.

It’s a just scooter and he’s an adult. Until you come to terms with that you’re never going to get anywhere and it’s not his job to do the work for you.

BONUS: As a motorcycle rider I know that the rules about vehicles that don’t require licenses are speed limited. For where I’m from that’s 50km/h before it requires a license. You telling him to look elsewhere or buy online is stupid as hell. He did exactly what you told him to do and you’re upset about it.

Have you explained the "why" behind you wanting him to park it in the back? Without the context of it being potentially dangerous for both of you and the possible theft, it might be inferred as you just trying to take control of him, his stuff, and his routines. If there's a way to make an area in the back a nice spot that is "his space" then he will probably be much more receptive. Everybody is different though so idk. Try open ended questions about what he wants and how he wants to do things. Bring up your concerns and see if you can brainstorm as a team for how you both can make adjustments to get a win for the both of you. Make it clear that you're his partner that's looking out for you both, not his adversary.

Hmm… Can‘t really tell you much without knowing more about the situation. Like what country are we talking about? What kind of scooter are we talking about? Those electric ones you are standing on or a tiny motorcycle with step through frame? Does he not secure other personal items like that or just the scooter? Why did he want to get one in the first place and not stick to the car? And is he provoking road rage with the car too or only with the scooter and how?

I'm not sure about the infrastructure in your area (sounds like bike lanes would be equated to communism somehow), but if you really care; call up your city council/local government and lever the power of democracy to create better infrastructure for him (ask him to do the same, if he hasn't already).

Other then that, just let him do his thing. If it's not a big deal to you, why bother? You've warned him about the rednecks, and that's the most you can do. From what I can tell from this rant, he seems to be coping well enough to live on his own and doesn't need parenting; indeed, he probably moved out to get away from his parents in the first place and you're probably just stressing him out.

Just chill and don't support car culture.