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Autistic roommate and scooter issues (7.62x54r.ru)

submitted 6 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I have an autistic roommate who is generally pretty good as a roommate. Lately there's been unnecessary friction over his scooter, which seems connected to his condition. He bought it after I suggested that he buy a motorcycle that's restricted in speed and engine displacement and so doesn't require a license or insurance. He went to the dealer and bought a scooter and when I asked him why he said that it was all they had even though he could have gone elsewhere or ordered one online.

Anyway, the thing I've been trying to get through to him is that he needs to park it around the back where it's not visible from the road or at a minimum, lock it up.

There are two other issues. I don't really like having a scooter parked in front of my house because they aren't really socially acceptable where I live. It's not a huge deal for me personally. The other is that he seems to cause road rage and I don't want rednecks driving by and seeing his scooter parked in front of the house.

He also owns a car that his parents pay for and I've tried to get him to use it more depending on where he's going because I've told him that he absolutely cannot be riding his scooter on country roads because the rednecks drive way too fast and they won't even see him when he's maxing out at 28 with that tiny engine.

I'm wondering if his refusal to park in the back is related to his condition. I'm mostly only concerned about it because I don't want to deal with the fallout if it gets stolen. All the other roommates who have had mopeds park them in the back.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Have you explained the "why" behind you wanting him to park it in the back? Without the context of it being potentially dangerous for both of you and the possible theft, it might be inferred as you just trying to take control of him, his stuff, and his routines. If there's a way to make an area in the back a nice spot that is "his space" then he will probably be much more receptive. Everybody is different though so idk. Try open ended questions about what he wants and how he wants to do things. Bring up your concerns and see if you can brainstorm as a team for how you both can make adjustments to get a win for the both of you. Make it clear that you're his partner that's looking out for you both, not his adversary.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago

I've told him the reason. I suspect that maybe he feels like it's slightly more difficult to take the scooter back and it's enough of a hump that he doesn't do it.

I'll try setting up a parking area in the back with a place for tools and related things and set it up so that everyone has their own space that they can use and lock up a bike if they have one. I think that giving him his own space like that would be good for encouragement.