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Autistic roommate and scooter issues (7.62x54r.ru)

submitted 6 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I have an autistic roommate who is generally pretty good as a roommate. Lately there's been unnecessary friction over his scooter, which seems connected to his condition. He bought it after I suggested that he buy a motorcycle that's restricted in speed and engine displacement and so doesn't require a license or insurance. He went to the dealer and bought a scooter and when I asked him why he said that it was all they had even though he could have gone elsewhere or ordered one online.

Anyway, the thing I've been trying to get through to him is that he needs to park it around the back where it's not visible from the road or at a minimum, lock it up.

There are two other issues. I don't really like having a scooter parked in front of my house because they aren't really socially acceptable where I live. It's not a huge deal for me personally. The other is that he seems to cause road rage and I don't want rednecks driving by and seeing his scooter parked in front of the house.

He also owns a car that his parents pay for and I've tried to get him to use it more depending on where he's going because I've told him that he absolutely cannot be riding his scooter on country roads because the rednecks drive way too fast and they won't even see him when he's maxing out at 28 with that tiny engine.

I'm wondering if his refusal to park in the back is related to his condition. I'm mostly only concerned about it because I don't want to deal with the fallout if it gets stolen. All the other roommates who have had mopeds park them in the back.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Hmm… Can‘t really tell you much without knowing more about the situation. Like what country are we talking about? What kind of scooter are we talking about? Those electric ones you are standing on or a tiny motorcycle with step through frame? Does he not secure other personal items like that or just the scooter? Why did he want to get one in the first place and not stick to the car? And is he provoking road rage with the car too or only with the scooter and how?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

It's a small moped with a step through frame.

I'm not sure exactly how he is with road rage, but he kept telling me about incidents that he had until I told him that he's obviously the one instigating them because there's no way that a reasonable person lets themselves get caught up in trouble like that.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago

Devil's advocate moment. I rode a motorcycle for many years. For whatever reason, people just tend to not see things smaller than a mid size sedan. People would pull out in front of me or change lanes into me so often that I just started to assume that people were trying to hit me, so I drove with what in a car was my "what if" scenario as my default expectation.

Combine that with whatever happened in his day beforehand and also his difficulties managing emotions and communication all with a stranger who at best doesn't know what his day or lifestyle is like, at worst is somebody who doesn't care and is wholly incapable of admitting fault, and I can see how he could find himself in sticky situations that he didn't or couldn't help, yet wasn't necessarily the instigator.

But it's also possible that he's spiting other drivers for unknown reasons. Life is hard on everybody these days and maybe he's taking it out in an unhealthy way. Idk haha.