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When did you realize that rich people live in a world of their own? (lemmy.world)

submitted 6 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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May be an incident where they could not understand how much things they take for granted cost to the normies, a flagrant disregard for morals or ethics, a blatant show of arrogance or disconnectedness, or anything yould like to share.

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[–] [email protected] 42 points 6 months ago (1 children)

When I was in my mid 30s driving back from Florida after closing out my dead mom’s apartment and so forth, I picked up a hitchhiker.

He was a rich person parasite kind of. He would work as a bartender where daughters of wealthy families partied. He charmed them and became their boyfriend, and that’s how he survived. He was smart and industrious with clever business ideas so he charmed the daughter’s dads as well kind of. When he was tired of grifting them he just disappeared. I picked him up at the start of his latest disappearance.

So anyway, yeah, during a 10 drive he clued me in to how wealthy people are offered services regular folks don’t even conceive of.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Care to elaborate on what those services are?

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 6 months ago

One of the kids in elementary school is very kind giving away paper when the teacher does surprise quizzes. May fortune always bless that person's soul.

On the opposite end, there's a lot of kids that play with their food/ snacks and chuck it around other kids and they consider that fun. My kid brain couldn't get it that time, all I thought was it is sacrilege to food and I can't do it because it's already hard to get by with enough food to eat.

All of it clicked in 4rth or 5th grade when you start to see more, sometimes subtle, variations of these privileges happening all around.

[+] [email protected] -14 points 6 months ago (4 children)

I realized rich people just sort of assume they’re going to get help when they ask for it, so I started behaving this way and people are so much more helpful.

Like, here’s a poor person:

What the fuck is going on with the air conditioning in my room? I paid $150 to stay here and I think there should be air conditioning in my room and this whole fucking vacation is a nightmare and I’m gonna leave the nastiest review if you don’t …

The poor person immediately assumes it’s a fight.

Here’s a rich person:

Looks like the AC’s gone out in my room. Could you please send someone up to take a look at it?

They just assume, from the get-go, that they’ll have full cooperation. It doesn’t cross their mind that someone might fight them on it.

I’ve found that this approach works wonders.

And even things that aren’t already “part of the deal” so to speak. Like:

You don’t happen to have a stand-up lamp I could put in this corner do you?

Like, a poor person would never even conceive that they could get extra furniture in that hotel room. A rich person just assumes all the resources available are at hand to help.

The staff will then go to their own office, or grab the stand-up lamp out of the lobby, something like that.

I dunno. I believe in social and economic mobility, and I think rich is a feedback loop between attitude and outcomes.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago

Isn't that just called "being polite"?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

What you're describing has nothing to do with poor vs rich.

Your belief in social and economic mobility indicates this is your cooping mechanism.

You are finding a way to blame poor people for their inequality. That's a much better example of the difference between poor and rich thinking.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Jesus h Christ son, the dude is sharing their experience

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

He's claiming to know others minds. That's not experience.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

It seems to me like they are saying, I seem to notice this behavior among the wealthy, and it seemed to me like they were behaving this way because of a general expectation. Then they tried engaging with the world using this new seeming realization.

Of course we can’t read others minds but in this example they took an experience they perceived and tried using / mimicking said behavior and they are saying they noticed results.

I hear what you’re saying but I don’t think your assessment is accurate

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I argue this isn't an observation on one's monetary wealth but rather their self worth.

The topic of the post isn't about how to act rich but rather how the rich act in ways that differ from those without that status. Anyone can have a high self worth.

Claiming that people who are poor earn it by having lesser self worth is a way to blame the poor for being poor.

It is a dangerous line of reasoning that I felt worth pointing out.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

I hear what you are saying but I don’t think their intention is to blame poor people for being poor.

As someone who grew up in poverty and has managed to claw my way out (still lower middle class, but above the median household income for my state just barely with my partner) I can relate to the anecdote the post described.

Going out to a restaurant when I was younger I would never have complained about anything. I’ve seen wealthier friends complain about too much butter on their toast…. Another anecdote, but I think there is some legitimacy to what the poster was trying to describe.

Poverty is looked down upon and with it often times comes a sense of self loathing. Acknowledging this is not blaming the poors for their own plight in my opinion.

But again I do see what you are pointing at.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Working retail in highschool in an area that is fairly low income but also intersects an area famous for celebrity vacation homes. The rich families would buy $1000 iPads for spoiled brats without any kind of breakage protection (after screaming at the retail workers for the screen not being indestructible, of course). The poor families always spent extra for protection because they valued their devices and couldn't easily afford another one.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 6 months ago (2 children)

I was in a contemporary fine art market and I just hear visitors mentioning about owning a hotel in such a casual way, like how one would talk about owning a car.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 months ago

In fifth grade at a private school in Florida, I told a kid our Apple IIe didn't have a joystick.

A few months later he was flabbergasted I didn't have one already.

I hadn't even asked my parents for one. It wasn't enough of a priority for me. (When I did get one a few years later it was with my money.)

We had a computer at home and were definitely not poor. But I stood out as the relatively poor kid there.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

Long before I started getting hungry. Now that I am hungry it is time to eat the rich.

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