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[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

The Real Man™ answer is that liking tomboys, or femboys, or anything outside of the "norm" for that matter, makes you not straight.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Hello, I'm here to change your sexuality, there is no such thing as straight or gay, in my opinion we are all pansexual, but some of us are gynephilic (attracted to feminity) others androphilic (attracted to masculinity) some are both.

Of course women can be masculine and men can be feminine, what matters is presentation, you're attracted to presentation not gender.

Ergo if a femboy is so feminine that you're attracted to them it's normal, it just means you like feminine presenting individuals. (Means you're straight, but what does straight even mean bruh)

However there is something important to take into account, romantical attraction, you can only want to date women but like a more manly presentation in that case you are still androphilic BUT you're romantically attracted to women. Which is probably an oversimplification of butch lesbianism, or liking tomboys.

This is my theory on the subject, it's probably flawed somewhere but I need other eyes to see it.

All in all, like who you want, be who you want.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

I agree with this, putting up straight lines between this shit is so dumb. Especially when you see what a broad array of fetishes there are, but when it comes to sex/gender you can only be strictly straight/gay/bi thats stupid.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

I think I'm more attracted to tomboys but I know I'm straight

[–] [email protected] 55 points 7 months ago (2 children)

The tragic hilarity of toxic masculinity is that it strives to define "a man" by what he isn't, in an attempt to preserve an exclusive and narrowly defined top slot of a social hierarchy. But all one has to do is claim behaviors as a different group, and the definition contracts accordingly. At the same time, the fact that said "masculine" definition is malleable to the point of sheer fiction, evades everyone in that group.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago

Men is what my ooga booga caveman brain defines as not female and not unkown. Non-binary folk are unkown to caveman brain for example. Trans women are women and same with trans men. Femboys are close enough to female that ooga booga caveman brain wants to put dick in some.

Reject modern prescriptivism, embrace caveman brain descriptivism!

[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Sound alike the gymnastics to define racial categories to preserve a social hierarchy as well. What is white? Well it's people from here and here, not Irish, not Jewish, etc. Oh wait, Irish are allowed now but not Okies. Okay, they're allowed now but no Jews! Now, Jewish can be allowed sometimes but no Italians. Alright, Italians, but no Jews, Irish are also okay, some Hispanic people if they can pass, certain Asians can be let in, etc. Etc. It always go on like that. It stays malleable just to make it exclusive.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

You gotta be kidding yourself if you think Asians are let in.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

turkey? iran? armenia?

[–] [email protected] 21 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Dude is thinking about this so hard he fell asleep before sex. Just admit your enby or bi. Its easier than trying to explain why. Its not your problem if people don't like femboys. Femboys are beautiful.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I think they're implying that they had sex but that he's still contemplating it. There's a bunch of condoms hanging off the nightstand lol

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

Not to Mention that he don’t wear the tank top anymore.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 7 months ago (3 children)

But what if I'm attracted to androgyny? I feel like a lot if people are and I don't know a word for that.

For reference I'm talking about memes like: My taste in women: Picture of LeanBeefPatty My taste in men: Picture of F1nnster

I think finnster had some coming out video, so might not be accurate anymore. But I see similar memes a lot.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago

I strongly recommend reading their (utterly fascinating) Wikipedia page. I'll just screw up the details by re-hashing it here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/F1NN5TER

[–] [email protected] 30 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'm wildly attracted to both of those people and just call it Bisexuality. Classifying attraction is kinda dumb anyway, as there's no point in setting up heuristics that will have that many edge cases and exceptions.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

I also call it bi - but I'm 40, I think younger people are more fluid and open to other labels.

Being straight and being attracted to women who present less femme could just be straight-with-a-preference or -type, could be bi/pan, could be higher on the Kinsey scale, or the existing but niche terms are flixisexual (/romantic), skoliosexual, or could even be androgynesexual, or androsexual (attracted to masculine traits, regardless of birth gender)

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