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Woman in a wheelchair saying: “THERE IS NO MARRIAGE EQUALITY UNTIL PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES CAN MARRY WITHOUT LOSING BENEFITS”
wait what the fuck
this post was submitted on 26 Jun 2025
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Just another way that the modern nazis fuck over the disabled.
It'd be just awesome if ANY candidate openly supported expanding disability rights to an equality level. Instead of trying to pander to people 'in the middle' who theoretically don't like nazis, but are very willing to work with them.
I honestly feel so much shame about not getting married bc I would lose my gov benefits. I've never thought about it like this and it makes me feel less ashamed.
It's shitty; but it's still total equality.
Equality vs. Equity
Hell yes, this is so important!
I feel this. If my wife got disability we could remodel our place more properly for disability. We have gotten by but just barely and she would have so much less pain each day if we just had a bit more resources.
Bro you are clearly being lazy, how about she just stops being disabled /S
What are the perks of marrying in the first place?
Boomers treat you like a real person
Non comprehensive, and only vaguely important to me, but being married would mean Healthcare decisions would fall to me automatically, if he dies I'd automatically be assumed to gain his belongings and home rather than very likely have his family contest his will that says the same thing but they could argue that more. They could come in and take over everything were anything to happen to him, and not allow me to see him. No survivor benefits if not married. I'm sure there's a lot more.
Couldn’t he just put you in his will?
Yes, and he has. That doesn't change the fact his family could come in and override decisions for medical care if he were to undergo a coma or the like. It's also more likely they can contest the will as we're not married and have the judge grant them it.
This is exactly what happened to gay couples during the AIDS crisis and precisely why same-sex marriage laws were fought so hard for.
This a preventive situation from bad family members, makes sense to be fearful that at some point, someone decides to take legal action and separate you from him, its crazy because as a couple you stay most of the time with him and very likely also share income but as other comments, marrying also implies sharing income and that affects insurance.
Similar shit happened to my WW2 veteran great uncle in law. His family who he hadn’t been close with in decades tried to take over his life from us but he managed to fight it before he died and was able to move back in the town his wife passed away in because his family moved him for a bit.
We're incredibly lucky. My wife basically gets a salary from our health insurance to care for me.
My husband is disabled and receives SSDI (US). I did the math when he was awarded disability and he would be getting a lot more if we weren't married. We had a very long discussion and long story short marriage was more important to us than money. Since we're married the money is counted as income and I am the one who pays taxes on it. He qualified for Medicare too after the first five years on SSDI and that comes out of his benefits as well. I still buy insurance for him through my employer which I pay out the ass for but it's worth it with his medical conditions and should I lose my job he still has his Medicare to fall back on. I dare say I pay almost as much for his medical needs as we get from the disability payments. We aren't by any means rich but we have the basics and that's enough. My heart breaks for him and others in the same or worse situations. His own family will say that they love him with one breath and then disparage those "freeloaders" with the other. Since the beginning of the year we've been religiously watching our bank account in horror wondering when the checks will just stop coming. It took years of hard work and tough decisions to get us both to a place of stability and productivity that now could disappear in an instant because we are the collateral damage in a rich folk's pissing match. I hope they all rot in hell.
Wait disability is taxed in the US? What the actual fluff!
Yup, they do.
And it's doubly stupid because they have to file the taxes for the disability benefits they get as well, even though the government could just deduct it automatically.
Taxing disabilities but not billionaires.
Of course. The disabled produce no value while the billionaires graciously let us work for them.
(satire)
not satire,
that's how the system works.
that's the consequence of not owning the means of production
Satire in so far as my parody of that sentiment doesn't reflect my own opinions
Yeah like, why not just make it lower like you're already doing? Like "Oh look at this big pretty number of support we're giving you but actually go fluff yourself".
We get taxed more than people in other countries think we do and add on car dependency and the scam health insurance scheme…it’s pretty bad here; unless you are worth more than 10 million dollars then you get to be more of a scum bag here than in other countries.
I do understand how US taxes generally are, you're also the only country that charges citizens taxes on income earnt when resident overseas, I have a few US friends here. But taxing a government benefit is just ridiculous double-handling and makes it duplicitous to the general public when benefit increases are discussed...
Erithrea also taxes their citizens wherever they are.
Same energy as pointing out Liberia also uses Fahrenheit.
Kind of, but they're basically the only two in the world because no one else is insane enough to care, the US does it by bullying other countries but considering the good will of a lot of countries is starting to be impacted, I'm not sure it will last until 2028… I'm pretty sure Erithrea only has leverage by withholding important documents for the taxpayers who don't comply.
What's the artist's name? Would love to find more disability-centric art
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