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how can I stop spiralling about my breakup? (lemm.ee)

submitted 3 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I know I keep posting over and over but I’m in so much pain and I have no one or nowhere to go to when I am sad. I’m trying to channel everything internally without being such a burden and annoyance to people. I keep asking myself “why didn’t he fight for me and his relationship?” “Why am I so easy to be given up on?” “Was I even special to him?” … I cannot stop crying. I feel hopeless right now. When we stopped talking for a couple days and I reached out for closure, he said not speaking for those three days makes him realize he should’ve been more appreciative of me and how hard I tried and all those things. But if he was saying those things then why not turn it around? 😔I sound like a hopeless romantic but I can’t wrap my head around anything anymore… the closure somehow made it worse I guess. I told him I forgive him for anything he thinks he did wrong. He appreciated that. I miss him so much. I miss our memories, I miss his face. Something deep down inside of me feels like I’m going to see his face again but I know that’s false reality. We never even got to talk to each other about these things in person. I just want to cry in his arms.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago

Ayy so I got a game in 20 sec and can't read all that but I promise you, you will heal with time. You will move on. But do something productive in the meantime. Become a better person - hit the gym, study for your next job hop, go for a hike, start a new hobby and meet friends - by being better, you'll have a chance to slowly get better.

I'll read your post after but you need to preoccupy your mins with other things.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (4 children)

find a rebound and fuck the hell out of them

edit: fuck you virigns downvoting me. jealous little men 😂 you are why you don’t get laid.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

Last time this happened to me, I got really into poetry.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 3 days ago

I have a friend who all of a sudden was broken up with by their decade-long partner. Never saw it coming, never got full closure. Point is you can't look into someone's head and you might never get a definitive answer as to "why" and "how" and the sooner you accept that the sooner you can move on.

Sounds harsh now, but things end and this too shall pass eventually. Stay strong.

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