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Women only trans inclusive This is an inclusive community for all things women. Whether you're here for make up tips, feminism or just friendly chit chat, we've got you covered.

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True...WOMENS ONLY COMMUNITY (lazysoci.al)

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Hi those from all! We're a women's only community, men we appreciate your interest but please do not comment 😊

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

I'm pretty sure if everyone stopped buying purses, women would finally get pockets in their clothes.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 weeks ago

well at least they get fake pockets

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

Insecurity is the driving force behind all lifestyle marketing, especially clothing and cosmetics.

[–] [email protected] 39 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

I worked in a gift shop, one thing we sold was lotions/creams and had testers on the counter. Then one day the boss brought in some magnifying mirrors, 3x on one side and 10x on the other. We set up one on the counter. Every woman looked into that 10x mirror and their face fell. Then they'd sigh and grab a tester and pat cream into their face. We sold a lot of cream and lotion, and all the mirrors! But I hated it. I was glad when they were gone, because I didn't like having a bunch of depressed customers. And I certainly didn't want to keep catching glimpses of my own face in there! Every tiny crevice looked enormous, like I was 100 years old.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

The more "ugly" and "fat" they can make you feel, the more money they can snatch from you!

And they very quickly change the beauty standard goal posts.

It's a never-ending carousel of horror! 🎠🔥

[+] [email protected] 44 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I want to add, there's no reason not to indulge in reasonable self-care, and everyone should be able to, within their means. No one should be unable. The skin is the largest body organ and our first barrier defense against illness and infection.

That said, we also need to take responsibility for our own ability to love ourselves, even if that means saying we love us until we get it. Because this isn't new, and we do often do it to ourselves, probably because of no small degree of conditioning. I watched a short (~40 minutes?) doco on Elizabeth I, she had a sweet tooth, a fear of dentists (who wouldn't, in those days?), and so rotten teeth. Because of the (not altogether true) hype of poets and paramours (which is a whole other ball of wax), women with perfectly (?!) good teeth began to blacken their teeth, to imitate Elizabeth.

TL;dr Our wounding isn't always our fault; our healing is our responsibility.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Here's how my healing has gone down.

I don't shave. Period. We have hair for a reason and cutting it off with blades that can (and do) nick the skin, or pulling it painfully out by its roots, or dissolving it away with hazardous chemicals is not good for us at any level.
I don't use makeup. (Well, OK, not entirely true. For very special events I might hazard some lipstick.) Most makeup clogs pores and makes the skin actively unhealthy. In response to this we're meant to use a whole bunch of chemicals of dubious provenance to clean it off our skin?
I clean with just soap (yes, even my hair). Unperfumed soup. In my case I use Aleppo soap or a goat milk soap from Xinjiang. There are no perfumes, no harsh chemicals (like the laurel sulfates at the core of most shampoos, body washes, hand cleaners, etc.).
I don't use commercial deodorants. I have a spray bottle (like the kind for misting leaves in a garden) 500ml in size into which I drop 1-2 teaspoons of alum powder and fill the rest with water. It lasts all day, typically, though on a really rough day I might have to apply it a second time. (I have a small sprayer at work for those rare occurrences.) It is a bit pricey, though. The last batch I bought cost about twenty-five bucks. After two years I've used up 20% or so of it…
I wash with the hottest water I can stand to clean out pores. (No need for harsh chemicals if you melt the sebum that traps dirt away.) Then I rinse with the coldest water I can stand. That cold water rinse takes getting used to, but it's enervating and it somehow aids (I've had it explained to me but couldn't follow along) in moisturizing.
On a very dry day I may use a neutral moisturizer (no perfumes) with a hint of petroleum jelly to help seal it in.

The result of all this is:

I feel better and look better.
I save a whole lot of money.
I save a whole lot of time.
I stop stressing about what I look like to other people; let them judge away. It's a case of mind over matter: I don't mind, they don't matter.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Sounds great. I still shave in summer, but that's because it's cooler. Our fur should thin, in hot weather. ;) I've switched to shea moisture soap but I like the goat milk when I can get it. I mostly use the "no poo" method for my hair, sometimes with a little honey in the acv rinse, sometimes I use Shea Moisture conditioner, but I mostly do coconut oil with a "do rag" for a deeper conditioning.

No makeup. Occasional moisturizer, non-petrol. Witch hazel and mud mask for pores, sometimes steam with coconut oil for deep moisture.

Mineral salt in water for d/o. I'll have to try the alum and other tips you mentioned. Thanks so much!

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Thanks didn't realise it was on all, I've added to the post that it's a women only community