No Stupid Questions

US here: There used to be because then you could get proper medication. Now, unless you have multi-millionaire level doctors, the DEA has scared all the doctors out of treating the illness.

Got anxiety? Here, have some antidepressants. Got PTSD? Here, have some antidepressants. Got ADHD? Here, have some antidepressants.

The antidepressants have CRIPPLING withdrawal effects and will make you feel like a dog on a leash. Forget a pill? Prepare to suffer, and remember that a side effect of the antidepressants is forgetfulness.

You'll still suffer, but they will kinda blunt your mind, so you'll be less vocal about it so other people don't need to be annoyed by you expressing the suffering you are experiencing.

Lose your health insurance? That's your fault. Suffer the intense withdrawals, but please still shut up about your suffering.

If nothing else, certain treatments, prescriptions, programs or whatever are likely to at least sort of require a diagnosis. Exactly how formal that is, and how strong the requirements are, depends on condition, location, institution, laws, all kinds of things.

Knowing what exactly is going is a big thing. I thought I had some form of ADD but it turns out I was just depressed and the ADD symptoms were just a side effect of it. Being diagnosed and on the correct medication was a game changer.

It felt like a huge relief to get names put on things I had been experiencing for most my life. It helped me pull apart a "me" and a "challenge I have."

Before, it was all "me," and I had a guilt around why I struggled so much in certain areas where so many didn't, and why I seemed so hard to help. But with a name to apply to these struggles, now the "me" was the part that had just been trying to cope with challenges many other people didn't have to worry about.

This is much better for feelings of self-worth. I can reasonably think "well, they too might be acting this way if their brain was kicking up shit like mine tends to do."

It also helps me understand my history and why I may have done things I did. I believe this more the longer I'm on medication. With a clearer head I start to drop coping mechanisms that no longer serve me, and I have a longer time line to notice what actually works for me - for all areas of life that everyone deals with. I guess... Like, it's not all just mental chaos now, I can actually pin down cause and effect. Like, I like a regular bed time because I like being able to concentrate the next day. In the past I would have no idea how an irregular sleep schedule might affect me because my ability to concentrate was constantly in flux with no discernable cause.

Of course, the help you get is better too once everyone knows what they're dealing with.

It depends. If you know you have issues, aren't dealing with or handling them to your satisfaction and want help? Absolutely. Therapy, treatment and proper medication generally require an official diagnosis, not to mention potentially being cheaper when you don't have to pay for all of it yourself. If you know you have issues, but have also developed effective coping mechanisms on your own and negative effects on your life are overall rare, I think it's fine to keep going undiagnosed, as long as you're mindful of your problems and how they affect the people around you.

Couple examples from my own life. I knew I was depressed. My friends knew I was depressed. I thought I was handling it okay, but I really wasn't. So I got a diagnosis, so I could get medication and therapy, that allowed me to build coping mechanisms to hold it at bay. I'm also fairly sure I'm somewhere on the autism spectrum. Where, exactly, doesn't matter, since I can manage life and socializing just fine, I simply have to think twice about what I say. And when I'm not sure of myself, I have trusted friends to go to for a second opinion. And then there's the undiagnosed face blindness. A diagnosis won't help at all, since there's to treatment or medication. I had built workarounds without knowing I was doing it, years before I found out face blindness was even a thing

In the end, if you're unsure, you can't go wrong with getting a diagnosis. If nothing else, it will at least tell you more about yourself and serve as a guideline for how you manage your issues.

I have this big gaping hole in my leg, is there any real benefit to going to the er or can I just tie a shirt around and just keep it elevated for a few days?

I’m in no way trying to be dismissive or mean here, I’m simply trying to impress the importance of treating your mental health ON PAR with your physical health. There are absolutely real benefits to seeking professional help and getting a medical diagnosis for whatever conditions are troubling you.

You would not be asking this question about a potentially broken leg so why would a potentially broken mind be any different?

To me a formal diagnosis gives you access to try medication if you want. Even if you're not interested or ready for medication, a diagnosis (formal or not) can make it easier to find strategies and tools that work for you. Lots of general productivity advice just don't work for ND folks, and looking for specialized tips makes a big difference.

To me having and accepting my diagnosis helped me accept me as I am and stop thinking I'll magically be better next week or next month or next year. I now put systems in place to help me with my weaker points and that's OK.

Title, basically. I know I have issues, but I couldn’t say if it’s depression, ADD, or just general problems. Is the only reason to have a diagnosis so you know what to work on, or are there other benefits such as easier access to therapy?

Well, if you say frequently suffer from headaches, would you not also eventually go see a doc to figure out whether it's something bigger you should be worried about?

Yeah, you can tell your boss you need a day off for a psych appointment.

I think so. I have mild ADHD apparently. It makes sense and explains why I have so much difficulty doing things sometimes.

So now I know. I got meds for it but don’t take them (as others will say, how messed up is it that the cure to ADHD is a pill to take regularly?). The meds help tremendously when I do take them, and revert me back to what I’m used to when I don’t.

At worst, it’s just how I’ve lived my life before but knowing it’s not exactly my fault I feel so bad doing certain things. It’s still my problem to do them, as it was before, but knowing helps a little. And at best I have medication that helps. All upsides!

Also if you think it’s depression, I’d recommend a CBT book like Feeling Good. Self treatment is effective. I am not depressed but have still benefited from recognizing when my thoughts are irrational and redirecting them to more realistic, less unhappiness-inducing ones. Could be good practice until you get a therapist, and per the research, can be about as effective as having one (likely for low level depression, I am not an expert)

Nearly everyone in modern times has a mental illness because this capitalism-and-media-driven era we were all born in to is not healthy and drives everyone mad. Getting a diagnosis is handy if you're seeking to get medicated and/or file for disability for the brain damage society has caused.

I went for a diagnosis, partially to support a claim of need for a special work environment as the rest of my team entered a bright, hot, loud hell-hole I knew would be the end of me. I have a history that could fit a profile of someone lightly affected by ADHD.

I got placed with a shrink over zoom, because #covid. Only rarely did she look up, but she was very sure I was affected. And the next 3 months were a roller-coaster.

You see, no matter what I said - side effects, worries about meds, 'flattening' - the answer was "more meds". I could announce I was actively on fire, and her response would be to increase the dosage.

By the end she was convinced I was 'profoundly' ADHD; and me living with it for decades. More meds was the answer. More, more more.

I left my job anyway, and with that my extended medical also stopped. The monthly charge for medications was hundreds, the 'flattening' was becoming an impactful condition, and the distant nature of the person prescribing more meds without glancing at me became another issue. I began to feel that my entire involvement in this process of diagnosis and treatment was to validate someone's profession and self-worth.

So I tapered off. I'll get back into the process again, but not with this doc.

If you do start the diagnosis process, I hope you don't get into a state where you doubt the professionals apparently working for your benefit. Trust is an important thing, and it's frail.

Yeah, it's not the olden days anymore, a diagnosis is all benefit, no downside now.

You can get help for your problem, mate. You can request accommodations at work or school. If needed, access to prescriptions. Maybe a way out of military conscription, or a defense in court if your crazy ass does something especially heinous.

Plus there is the validation that this isn't just feeling blue or being hyper or whatever, it's actually a thing and you should treat it like a thing.

Fellow Canadian here and I wouldn't have survived university without my ADHD diagnosis. It unlocks all sorts of special accommodations and services that the school will provide which can help a lot of you are bad at taking tests. Not too mention medication.

As for accessing therapy, it can be helpful to tell a therapist that you are diagnosed with something so that they can tailor the work they do with you.

Lastly, my ASD diagnosis was literally life-changing. I only got it a couple years ago and it helped me go from socially awkward late-20s virgin to a confident guy with a girlfriend. Because as you said it makes you much more aware of what your weaknesses are if you can get that external validation from a professional.

My opinion is yes, absolutely. I say this as a Canadian who is legally permanently disabled because of a head injury and resultant mental health issues. I also have a friend who was recently scared about seeing a psychiatrist, but went and got diagnosed with a condition. (I don't want to go into details for the sake of their privacy). We both have had our lives improved by engaging with mental health professionals.

As I see it, getting diagnosed doesn't change the way you feel - what I mean is, you aren't going to make things worse. It's also not guaranteed to help, but here are some potential benefits:

• The big one is understanding yourself and the situation you are in. Once you have an official diagnosis, you can learn about your situation and how to accept it and work with it.
• You may gain access to additional help. From my experience as a Canadian patient, I am always ultimately in control of which recommended treatments I'm willing to try. You don't HAVE to follow through on any of the doctor's recommendations, but they can potentially be available as options. You can have conversations about expected benefits vs. side effects and decide what's right for you. So you don't lose anything and you can always say no.
• If you start seeing a health professional regularly, it can really help provide an outside perspective. It's all too easy to get lost inside your own head, disregard progress, ignore problems, or fall prey to self-destructive thoughts. Having that 2nd person to help you keep track of how you're doing and bounce ideas/problems off of can be invaluable.
• Most people (by a good margin, like 65-85% depending on the study) say that therapy meaningfully helped them. That's not a promise of a "cure", but even just being acknowledged and learning healthy habits/strategies can improve quality of life.

Ultimately, like I said, it's your decision. Don't feel bad if you want to take more time to think about it, but also be aware that for many people booking that initial appointment is easily one of the hardest steps.

A professional, or team of, can pin point what is up. knowing the underlying issue can help find you treatments or medicine specific to your needs. Really though it depends on how well you cope with life/work/friends, because if you get by and it ia not hindering your enjoyment of life, then treatment meds may not be a priority. i have known a few people where they got adhd meds and found it life changing, and some with depression meds got them out of a deep funk.