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"The stone cannot know why the chisel cleaves it. The iron cannot know why the fire scorches it. When thy life is cleft and scorched; when death and sadness leap at thee, beat not thy breast and curse thy evil fate. But thank The Builder for the trials which shape thee."
From Thief: The Dark Project
Work smarter, not harder.
Scrooge Mc Duck"Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source" - Iroh
And
"Curiously enough, the only thing that went through the mind of the bowl of petunias as it fell was Oh no, not again. Many people have speculated that if we knew exactly why the bowl of petunias had thought that we would know a lot more about the nature of the universe than we do now." - Hitchhikers Guide
Dont think about things too much. Just accept it, and change accordingly with a response
Also from H2G2, behold the majestic : " -Perhaps I'm old and tired, but I think that the chances of finding out what's actually going on are so absurdly remote that the only thing to do is to say, "Hang the sense of it," and keep yourself busy. I'd far rather be happy than right any day.
-And are you?
-Ah. No. Well that's where it all falls down, of course "
I like it even better in the movie, Bill Nighy embodies this sentence perfectly.
Came for the second, stayed for the first
Itβs a poem by Stephen Crane, but so short Iβm often reminded of it in full:
A man said to the universe:
βSir, I exist!β
βHowever,β replied the universe,
βThe fact has not created in me
A sense of obligation.β
It sounds nihilistic, but itβs somehow calming whenever I start to feel like Iβve been wronged or Iβm owed a break of some sort.
I got two. First is just Hanlon's razor; "Never attribute to malice what can be attributed to incompetence"
The second one is a bit of a strange pick; its "But there's no sense crying over every mistake; You just keep on trying till you run out of cake."
Another version I've heard is "When you suspect a conspiracy you often only find incompetence"
I hate Hanlon's Razor. It's used as an excuse by and for too many malicious people lately.
Fortune favors the bold.
It was written in a graduation card from my grandfather.
"It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it." -Seneca
When we complain about not having enough time, we think of ourselves as being passively allocated an insufficient resource. But maybe the problem isn't that life is too short, but that we waste much of the time we're given.
I think this is relevant in these modern times more than ever. How much of our time goes to mindless scrolling, worrying about things beyond our control, or pursuing goals that don't truly align with our values? We should be thinking about the difference between being busy and spending time meaningfully.
And that's not to say all time spent should be something "productive". Leisure time can be meaningful. But I think it's worth even thinking about that. Are you truly happy with how you choose to spend your leisure time when you watch 100 short videos you probably won't even remember? Or when you sit there getting angry or depressed about article after article after article? I think it's worth thinking about.
Hold on tightly, let go lightly.
The Croupier in Croupier.
It doesn't come with extra instructions, so it means what I want it to mean and someone else may have it mean something else entirely. For me it means hold on to the important things tightly while they are important and when they aren't then it is time to let them and other things go.
Don't carry things that don't need to be held onto, especially if you can't control them. I hold onto the memories of my sister both good and bad, I embrace the pain of her not being here anymore when they come, then I let the pain go because I keep ahold of the happiness she brought into people's lives while she was here.
Hmmm. I'll try to remember this one, thank you, that's a real gift.
Men are scared that women will laugh at them , women are scared that men will kill them.
Golf: A nice walk, ruined.
Itβs always darkest before the dawn.
How I interpret it is that when things get bad, and reach a new level of bad, that could be just what is needed for the pendulum to swing the other way, and swing extra hard.
Kind of like a Great Depression giving labour laws kind of a thing.
Gives me hope.
"Don't follow people - follow ideas" which seems more relevant today than ever before it seems.
I think there is a quote somewhere from someone that says people talk about people, smarter people talk about facts and even smarter people talk about ideas. I am probably murdering the quote, but it was something like that.
It makes sense though, talking about other people doesn't really provide much direction in life. Facts do provide more direction in life, but ideas really function as a pointer in a lot of situations when may not know what to do otherwise.
Yeah this quote really pivoted my life to a strong cosmopolitan view. By detaching ideas from people you can pick and choose and design your own philosophy and direction without attachment to exact people or inherited culture.
This is quite liberating mentally as solving cognitive dissonance is very expensive and theres an incredible amount of cognitive dissonance required to follow people who are often flawed or have conflicting ideas attached to them.
I feel like this is most appropriate with politicians. No politician will be everything you want, but if they have a few policies you're into, they're worth your vote.
I think it applies outside of politics as well like art and even business.
Totally fair.
Those who don't know history are doomed to repeat it. Those who know history are doomed to know it's repeating.
It's the second part that makes this otherwise well know phrase hit much closer to home for me.
Dad told me when I was young to "learn to drink your coffee black and cold and you'll never be disappointed."
I don't think he was just talking about coffee.
As in have low expectations of everything?
More like be grateful for what you're given
That's much more wholesome!
"Do to others as you want done too you" Wouldnt say its under rated just not actually followed by the masses that preach it but i prefer to say "dont treat people how you wouldnt want to be treated"
IMO some people take this too literally. Just because you want to be treated a certain way doesn't mean other people want to be treated that way.
While that is true. i think it's more on a deeper level that everyone just wants to be loved.
"Don't let perfect be the enemy of good."
I would be so far ahead of where I am right now if I had just decided on a course and committed instead of analyzing all the choices to death.
Sadly, pretty much all struggles against a common oppressor take on heavy identity characteristics and have the accompanying problems. It's the main reason they don't work immediately.
Anyway, probably "What I cannot build, I don't understand", by Richard Feynman (although the exact wording varies by source). If I write a book that's probably going to take up the first page.
Rewatched that recently. I was really surprised how dark it sometimes gets for a kids' show. It still holds up really well!