I'm my dog's favorite person, and that's enough.
this post was submitted on 08 Feb 2025
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or become old enough to realize...you are no longer the main character in your own life.
I definitely remember the turning point.
Seeing a tiny version of something who raise (either human or furball) get older and do things outside of your control, and all you can do is set them up for success.
Kinda like playing The Sims.
the "floater friend"
I'm my cats' favorite person, but that's only because they are indoor cats and I'm the only human in the house.
I have others in the house, but I feed her so she loves me the most. Conditional love works when the condition is easy to fulfill ❤️
I don’t need to be someone’s favorite person, I don’t think. But I’ve grown exhausted with “uneven” friendships. I feel like every relationship I try to maintain, it’s a one sided effort. I’m the only one reaching out. I take note of their interests and utilize that info, send them cool links, spark convos, etc. But don’t really get it in return.
Perhaps that’s too demanding of me? Unrealistic? If so, I don’t think I understand what friendship is supposed to be and likely never will.
so is it this way for every relationship or are there some where the other person is always reaching out to you? totally agree, it's nice when both friends are equally reaching out and attempting to nourish the friendship
Same thing with me. I've joined a notorious uni known for ragging and bullying. Being friendless can make you their target. If not for that, I would rather be isolated than fruitlessly try and make friends.
What the fuck is wrong with your place that there is bullying at university? I think most people left that shit in high school, and I could have gone for days at uni without interacting with someone if I wanted..
I think I must have told you that I'm not an American. It's worse than high school in uni here because the staff gives no fuck.
Me neither. I was at one trade school and two universities in central Europe, and I haven't heard of any serious bullying. At most at the trade school, because the average age was around 18-19 and "shop talk" is a bit rougher by default. But at uni, where half the people are like 25?
I think I mistook the meaning of the word uni. The oldest students in my college are 20. There is no 25 year olds here. Tbh, I've never personally known a person who is like 25 and studies irl.
Even if you have a more straightforward resumee than me.. You finish school here at 18, 5 years planned time for most master degrees, that makes you 23-24. Longer if you take a detour here or there.
We finish grade school here at 15 yo. Then 2 years of pre-university college. Then we start our degree courses at 18. Most of them are 3-4 years. I think it's because my college does not offer master degrees.
Or do you ever realise that everyone percives you differently, so you're a different person to different people.
My partner is my favorite person and I'm his. I would assume it's true for (at least) many couples. Am I missing something, or are people just lonely?
People are just lonely.
What about everyone else who does not have a partner?
Of course, I just felt the premise was too specific to be relatable, because many people are someone's favorite, and it's not typical to wonder if you are someone's favorite even when your lonely. But maybe that's just me.
That's great but it's important to have friendships outside of your relationship as well.
It's that what the post is about?
Yeah, I don't think this post is addressing folks who are in a relationship. 😅
Yeah, fair enough 😄
That would be majority of lemmy users.
What really sucks when it happens, but is good because you need to know that's who you chose as friends... Is when you go chill alone and they intentionally avoid you to make sure you are known you are unwanted. People look for people they want around, doesn't matter if you didn't do anything to deserve it, doesn't matter if you have no one, what matters is you understand how alone you really are so you don't think you have people to rely on when all you really have is a bottle of pills. Being alone is something anyone can survive, being abandoned is pretty brutal if you don't already expect it. So, just expect it.
I am lucky to get an early start in life to know that you should not please every people, and not everyone will like you. So screw the haters.
No, I don't have a favorite person. I assume others don't either.
Nope. In the words of Nina Simone. I go where people love me and I stay there cuz they love me.