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I've heard several stories about couples that suddenly stop having sex, start snapping at each other for stupid bs, your girlfriend who was so sweet and supporting becomes her mother, a raging, yelling psychopath, looking for excuses to be passive aggressive, inviting her friends back home when all you want to do is rest after your workday, your boyfriend, so passionate about you is suddenly cold towards you and wants to be left alone. Before having a child you were inseparable, now it's like you hate each other and rant about your loved one with your friends...

I couldn't survive such a radical personality change.

Does this phase eventually runs its course?

How do you find the mental fortitude to ignore the stupid bs your partner does or says?

How would you describe love to your partner a year after having a baby?

Is there any way to know if you and your partner are going to make it and remain a couple after having a child?

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. That's a really hard situation for you. Sounds like she has gotten postpartum rage, which seems to be linked to postpartum depression and anxiety. Please don't stop taking care of and defending your child as she grows up. When babies are small, they literally don't even know that they are their own person. They think that they are the same as the mother, so they mirror much of what the mother does. I hope that you pushing through and being there for your child as they continue growing up will help, so that the child has someone stable to rely on.

I would also try to get your wife into therapy. This is not her, it's chemical imbalances in her brain because of the pregnancy that is causing this. It is strong stuff. And while it is shitty, and does not excuse her behavior, I lean towards thinking that it is not her fault. She is basically sick.

I would try to frame it in a gentle way when suggesting it. Maybe not saying she is sick, but that you miss the loving partner that you know still exists, and that you both need professional help to figure out what the pregnancy did. According to this article the condition is entirely treatable. Good luck.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

She did have therapy, which probably helped a little, it's hard to know. I've never heard of postpartum rage before but that does sound like it, thanks so much for that link.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago

You're welcome, I hope it gets better soon.