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You're confusing gender expression with gender identity, and not doing a great job at reading comprehension as well.
Transphobes think gender is synonymous with biological sex. People who almost get it think that gender is entirely independent of biology. The truth is that gender is complicated. The link I shared gives a decent overview.
Do you think trans people transition because one day they decided to on a whim? Do you think if you flipped a coin to pick a child's gender that that's what they'd be?
Set aside that you've decided to argue and actually think for a moment. Where do you think gender dysphoria comes from?
I don't think your little argument is as compelling as you think. If you ask me to address you by a different name I would, and it is impolite to refuse to use someone's preferred name.
Let me guess, your one joke is "and I identify as an attack helicopter hyuck hyuck hyuck"?
The crux of the matter seems to be that you think you shouldn't need to be respectful to people except when it suits you, and you're irritated people might judge you for that. You've also got that trumped up conservative "there's so many rules nowadays! You can't just make a joke anymore!” energy.
Yes, if English never had gendered pronouns I'd still think gender as a concept would have reason to exist.
I can't tell if you are stupid, a troll, a transphobia, or being reflexively contrarian.
My point was never that gender shouldn't exist. And I admitted from my first post that I am willing learn peoples pronouns and address them as such (the tax comment). Just that I think it is a thing that should go away 200 years from now or so.
I don't see any point continuing this conversation with you. Have a nice life.
In the beginning, I was trying to explain why some people don't want to eliminate gender for the same reason racial minorities usually don't want to eliminate the concept of race.
Now I'm just enjoying marveling at your unwillingness to acknowledge that you might have had room to improve your understanding of something and trying to cast "trans people didn't choose their gender" as transphobia of all things. And in defense of "socialization is hard, I don't want to be polite" of all things.
Aight.
I will have a nice life. I hope you sit and have a good think deaf_fish who likes the C programming language. You might realize you had some misconceptions.
I see, that was a poor wording choice on my part. I see now why I was getting some push back.
Thanks for showing that to me. I should have been more specific.