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submitted 1 week ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I got rejected a gazillion times in my career and I still get rejected left and right.

However the moment I express my lack of interest advanced in the position, I get bombarded by emails and requests for meeting..

This happened to me twice:

A few years ago. I passed all the stages, the position included relocation, I missed one thing in my negotiation: the taxes in the new place are really high. I emailed them explaining my position, not interested anymore because of taxes.. Then I start getting requests to set up meetings, and attempt to get me to explain to answer a long list of questions.. I tried to be nice and helpful but it seems people lost their temper already (started getting "unprofessional" emails)
More recently, I passed the first few stages, the last stage seemed too frustrating and slow so I gave up. All of the sudden, things changed again and everyone is trying to understand more in detail...

Why are we expected to eat rejections and not take it personally but they can't take their own advice?

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago

"I thus have no compelling reason to continue interacting with you" ... I bid them farewell ... I have never gotten a follow-up after that

It's great that you respond like this because then the hiring manager can show their boss this and both be happy they dodged a fedora bullet