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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 day ago (10 children)

Ask for help. Be vulnerable with the boys.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

what boys? This ignores the original point. There isnt some big group of friends just waiting for a cry for help... The point is they arent receptive to it and it causes them to withdraw. A dude feeling suicidal? Literally no wants to hear it. Theyll just feel uncomfortable and avoid you.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Sounds like you need new boys. If you tell your friends you’re feeling that low and they withdraw from you because it makes them feel icky, they aren’t your friends. They’re self centered pricks who aren’t worth investing your time or feeling into.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Gee thanks, that's super helpful.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 54 minutes ago (1 children)

On second thought, my recommendation is therapy

[–] [email protected] 0 points 31 minutes ago (1 children)

K.

This you?

I’ve tried being open with friends and it just didn’t seem like it mattered much to them. I don’t have many close friends, almost none to be honest.

It seems you should heed your own advice

[–] [email protected] 0 points 14 minutes ago (1 children)

I am in therapy? This isn’t the burn you thought it was. You can talk to your friends and a professional counselor. What a weird reply.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 minutes ago

It wasnt intended as a burn. "Physician, heal thyself."

[–] [email protected] 4 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

If only that worked for me. I've been in a depressing place for 5 years, and I both opened up to my homies and brother... Crickets.

My wife keeps me sane and grounded.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 12 hours ago

I feel that, man. I’ve tried being open with friends and it just didn’t seem like it mattered much to them. I don’t have many close friends, almost none to be honest. But I have my wife and no matter what I always know she’s there for me, unfailingly.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

The boys can't do anything. They're broke and hopeless too.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 16 hours ago

Sometimes just talking things out is meaningful on its own.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

I will just say, having gone through a real rough year, it's not always black and white. I be vulnerable with the boys and ask for help, but I need time to process first, and to do it in the way I want and the time I want.

In the meantime, I am often sending memes for that small comfort of friendship while I process.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 18 hours ago

Yes. That's the healthy option. ...Not gonna do it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 19 hours ago

Cool, cool, cool...

Are there any other options tho?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I'll just post 'mood' worthy memes untill the problem is normalized to me long enough to stop making me feel things about it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Or go to therapy, or a 12 step program, or a support group, or a mens shed or call a crisis line.

But ignoring it and pretending it'll go away on its own letting the pressure build until it explodes is MANLY unlike taking responsibility for your reactions.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Lol, no. We'll all just suffer quietly thanks.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

The time is gone, the song is over. Though I'd something more to say.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

The inner machinations of my mind are an enigma...