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Lemmy users are too negative towards each other (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I don't know if my experience is rare on this platform but I can't count the times I've either been a target or someone is being a target of another out to grind their axe. It gets quite old and annoying fast.

Like, damn, if I'm saying something at least listen to what I mean before you attack. Why is it so hard to give people the benefit of the doubt or ask clarifying questions first, or argue back in good faith? This place is still full of folks with similar values to be assuming shit.

And, sadly, it's not even restricted to political communities. I find it everywhere creating pointless arguments for no reason.

Ngl, Lemmy is kinda toxic. Someone else just posted about the site being gloomy but I think it's more than that.

(Yes, I do block and try not to engage, but I'm only human. Etc.)

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[+] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I can expect and not necessarily assume I will get it. You think I'm approaching it a certain way when I'm not. It's exactly what I'm talking about above.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I think you yourself are acting like the people you criticize.

I can't say I'm not frustrated with the quality of comments that I'm getting. It's like people go out of their way to find fault in what I'm saying and it's quite exhausting. But I don't see anyone putting themselves in those shoes.

After all why split that hair in the first place.

Because the commenter is coloring a picture that's not accurate and I want to make it clear it's not so. It's a quick comment that costs me nothing and it's mean to clarify. But now it's a huge deal, holy cow.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Can we spare the platitudes? It's kind of annoying that this thread is making my point and yet somehow it's still on me. If you think my comments come off a certain way, consider that yours do too.

I was that commenter and just stated my opinion.

But I did too? xD

Your response didn’t make anything more clear

Sorry, I'm trying to marrow down the topic here because honestly going over definitions to simply say that I wasn't doing that is annoying. We've established we have different definitions and that's good enough.

To be honest it is quite frustrating talking to you

I mean, I am frustrated and you're not exactly making it better. What kind of response do you expect if I'm being blamed? You think it's wonderful talking to you too? We're all a bunch of hypocrites here, then.