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Is attention seeking behavior a personal failing or a societal I'll? (lemmy.world)

submitted 8 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Some personality problems, like abandonment issues or low IQ, I think of as due to genetics or adverse childhood events not the fault of the person...other traits like being a person who litters or being greedy I think of as personal failings - my questions is where would you put attention seeking behaviors like being super entitled about your wedding or lying about traumatic events?

Are these caused by social problems, and if so what might they be? Or are they just people wanting attention because it feels good and they feel entitled to do whatever they have to to get it? I have cognitive dissonance on this and am curious to hear other people's take and why.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Idk why I said Kmart Reddit, was really trying to inspire a laugh, and to encourage seeking professional help for stuff like this (because, i read this like OP had a specific instance that happened and upset them)

a therapist will have far greater tools and knowledge than Lemmy will probably be able to provide, and Lemmy may even provide harmful advice while we’re at it.

Was just supposed to be a “chuckle, yeah this probably isn’t the best place to ask for psychiatric reassurance while I’m fucking annoyed” inspiring comment but I see at least some were offended by the Kmart Reddit comment which is fair because it’s downplaying the power of lemmy and giving more back to Reddit. I’ll edit the post to be less rude

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Kmart Reddit is hilarious and you should keep it, fuck the downvotes

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

It might be a funny word choice (my thoughts at first too!) but it just muddied my message.

I hate feeling frustrated by not being able to communicate clearly with others more than I found the wordage to be funny so I opted to take the small L and grow from it

Nbd really