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But that happens a lot doesn't?
The original question asked about physical attraction - not attraction overall.
There's lots of shit that makes people attractive and physical attraction is a rather minor portion of that equation for a lot of people.
Well, what about people that aren't attractive. Are they supposed to never have partners?
They're not attractive to you. Everyone is attractive to someone.
Mentally, definitely. But we're talking about physically here. Physical attractiveness is pretty much the same across all humans, or rather what isn't attractive. Extreme mutilations and similar for example.
I take your point, and I used to believe that, but I learned my view was pretty narrow, compared to the options/tastes expressed by the diverse people I've met, since.
Nah, you grossly underestimate the kink community.
They should date each other...
Why do unattractive people think they gonna jump above their lot. Some fuxking immature way of thinking lol
It ain't settling if you are both fugly... Lol
To anyone who considers a good personality attractive, I'm guessing dating you would be considered scraping the bottom of the barrel.
We are talking about looks per OP's prompt. There is nothing wrong with less attractive but you ain't gonna "date up" unless you got something really going for you and even then vast majority of people end up with same looking person.
Either way, Is that supposed to be an insult?
Why is u hurt lol
I'm not personally insulted. I just think it's incredibly shitty to treat dating like some kind of caste system where people "belong" at a certain level. I can see why you said you can't "score" anyone that you view as more attractive when you view things that way.
You are clearly triggered and it is early caste system always has been
This how people been choose mates when they are given the choice.
You are not bringing any counter point either besides attempting to attack me lol
Not planning to. I asked to try to gauge whether this was widespread behaviour.
I understand wanting to get a read on how other relationships work, but I'd also like to say wayyy to many relationships are not good examples, and even the ones that do look like good examples can look very different from the inside.
Getting more information is almost always good, but be careful to take it with a grain of salt, and above all do what feels right by you and your partner over advice you got from people who's relationships you don't know too much about.