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If I had to guess, I would say it’s because most porn does not cater to women and the female gaze. When it comes to books and any kind of media that isn’t visual, you have to make up the visuals yourself, which opens up the door to creative thinking and taking control of your fantasies instead of merely being told “this is what’s happening objectively, like it or not.”
This is purely my personal observation, but the women I've talked to seem to have far kinkier fantasies generally than men, but are also far more shy talking about it. So maybe women lean into more "customizable" types of porn?
There is something wonderful about looking for a specific kink and then finding a woman happy to do that particular thing on camera, if it seems like she's actually enjoying it. Like, "hey, I'm a deviant, but so is this specific woman! I'm not alone!" That might just be me though. I find that if I'm reading porn, it doesn't have as much of an impact unless I know the author is female, or I know other women are enjoying that story a lot.