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I like the advice others have given, particularly the "no kids" suggestion. If one of your core interests is raising kids, of course, you're in for a wild ride. But if raising kids isn't one of your core interests, then give it a good long think. There's no rule that says you have to have kids. I'm in my mid 50's, happily married, never had kids and it was a great decision. Zero regrets. Leading a full life.
I also suggest taking a long-term perspective when you're trying to balance how you use your time. The circumstances of your life are going to hinder and enable all your interests in various ways over your life. Lean into that. There are core interests of mine that I've shelved for years at a time only to later revisit in a new way when my priorities re-aligned.
On the long run, it's all been balanced.
It's great you're thinking about these things. The unexamined life is not worth living (said Socrates). But please don't feel overwhelmed. The great thing about this dilemma is that you're the one who gets to decide if it works out in the end.