I hate to say it, but I think to most people I probably look like a chud. Anyone who has known me for more than 4 seconds knows I'm not, but I'm afraid I still visibly give off that vibe. I'm a man, or think I'm probably nonbinary tbh, but I still present and appear fully masculine, close to 40, full beard and mostly just wear plain dark t-shirts with no logo and dark jeans. I do have shoulder-length long hair, but so have plenty of chuds I've been acquainted with. I don't have any sense of style and have never tried to learn or care about fashion, but no disrespect to those who do.
I probably shouldn't care, but I hate knowing that when I'm around people they probably think I'm a reddit gamer or worse. Should I try to change my appearance or should I just learn not to give shit? Does anyone else here worry about that?
I'm also going to be getting glasses in the next few days and have to decide on a frame. What should I get to try to minimize chud appearance? I have kind of a squarish face but maybe a bit rounder now as I get older. Do certain kinds of glasses scream redditor or chud? Any advice on what I should go for is welcome.
Edit- Thank you for the advice to everyone who commented I really appreciate it. I am afraid I might have given the wrong impression on some of it so to clarify, I'll just quote one of my responses
I do want to look unassuming. I'm pretty bad with social anxiety and most of the time I just want to go unnoticed. But I worry even that in going unnoticed I'll give off the wrong impression. Chud is an extreme I probably shouldn't have used because I don't think anyone would ever look at me and think gun totin' confederate flag waving chud or wannabe cop or some shit.
The worry is looking more like the aloof redditor, new athiest or even altright leaning brand of chud, or maybe I'm using the word chud wrong. As far as the nonbinary thing, that's a lot to get into, but just as far as dress style, I don't really want to look masculine OR feminine. I used to wear more feminine coded things when I was younger, but these days I feel like the plainer the better. I do have some leftist t-shirts, but I save those for certain occasions or when I'm going to be around certain people, or even trying to do leftist signaling without libs knowing with my All Cats are Beautiful shirt. Most of the time all I wear is a plain dark color with NO messaging at all not even a visible logo. I guess it's less that I want to indicate my politics and more that I don't want to announce the wrong politics when I'm just going about my day.
To be totally honest, I posted mostly because of the glasses I'll be getting and I don't want frames that make me look like Vaush.
i've gotten lazy with boymode fashion and just wear obscure lefty-adjacent hardcore/metalcore band t-shirts but the rest of me just screams countrified outdoorsperson so i can blend in. basically punk-redneck-dadbod. unfortunately where i live punk-redneck is your standard libertarian-chud so they just think i'm one of them. helps at work though, because i can inject leftist concepts right into people's brains, their shields are down
at home i go butch girlmode
i used to have little markers of non-gender conformity, like colorful bracelets, nail polish (metallic and generally chipped), more femme hair cuts (either long undercut or spikey emo style), clean shaven all over, tongue ring/nipple piercings with that rainbow oil slick looking steel. all of my tats are kind of femme, colorful stars and stuff, but under shirt sleeves. basically i used to dress like a punk lesbian and most of my friends were such
don't know if any of this is useful (im about your age, sans beard)
buuut about the glasses: i don't wear regular glasses and can't help much (besides maybe do some round frames if they look good?)
does anyone know what are considered non-chud coded sunglasses? style, brand, whatever? only ever had a pair of aviators back when they were hipster, and my eyes are being vaporized by UV
Wayfarer style sunglasses. Look cool as hell, and work with pretty much every outfit.
Ooo i'll check them out ty.
I hate feeling like an advertisement, but I've been pretty happy with the Warby Parker ones I've bought through the years.
Me and my wife are an aviator/wayfarer couple, so i know what you're looking for. We both have a few pairs of both.