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Wait, are the rest of you feeling accomplished after finishing tasks?
I don't think that's really a thing. It's just a ruse to try to convince you to do more stuff.
It's like that "you feel great after running for an hour". Well I ran every other day for six months, I never felt anything other than sore and sweaty. It's all lies.
Those times when I've achieved runners high it was when I pushed myself to carry a heavier load, and walk faster. Never during endurance training.
I would feel my legs burn and there's a temptation to slow down, but that was the signal to forge on commit to walking faster.
At the time I had a very specific motivation for walking, and I wish I hadn't stopped walking when that motivation was gone. It's hard to start up again.
See, for me, exercise is one of the few reliable ways to actually get those feel-good brain juices.
So you're part of the conspiracy.
I love to go for insanely long walks - when I'm walking. When I'm not walking I refuse to leave the house. I am deeply suspicious of who this xmunk clone that takes over whenever I'm walking is.
Oh, no, running sucks. I lift weights, commute by bicycle, and dance until I drop.
I use a bicycle too. I have done so for the last thirty years. Because it's a convenient way to get around.
I wouldn't even dream of lifting weights though. Even if I was paid for it. That's the weirdest idea ever. Maybe if I was starving.
Did you properly stretch, warm up, cool down, and stretch again? If you're still sore after 6 months, either your form is off or you have a medical issue. Can't help you on the sweaty thing. That's why I prefer to swim/surf
I was more tired than sore, to be honest. The main point is that I never got to a point where I felt good about running. It was always a chore. After a while I gave up on it because I just hated it.
Nowadays I just walk because at least I can take in the scenery, stop to look at stuff, look at birds, take pictures and whatever.
I typically complete a task to then immediately jump onto the next thing.
I remember while being rewarded for a job well done, I didn't hear a single thing because I was mentally trying to solve the next problem.
Me too! There's always another task
Exactly: do the task, feel either nothing or like a fraud depending on if it meets your self-imposed ludicrous standard.
Or find all the flaws after the fact, and feel bad for not doing a perfect job.
You'll never get it perfect, so I found it useful to reframe it as aiming to get as close as possible to perfect then giving yourself a fair critique so you kniw how to get closer next time. It's sort of Zeno's perfection paradox. You get closer each time, but never actually get there.
Yeah. That's the source of suffering. At some point your bar for good enough is so high nothing brings you joy and all your past "accomplishments" bring you pain.
I can't say that I feel my past accomplishments bring me pain, each was as well done as I knew how, and brought me new knowledge, which is quite rewarding. The bar doesn't raise beyond reach either, as you already know how to go as far as you have, and you've hopefully learnt a little more. You're not always going to achieve your best results, but that's where critiquing your performance comes in. You can inevitably learn something from it.
Do the task not because having it complete brings you joy, but because having it left undone brings you suffering.
Fuuck