To be clear, i wasnt trying to disparage anarchists in general.
You're good, I was just trying to be clear about where I was coming from.
I think the thing to do in these situations is to start with first principles, probably supplied by them with gentle nudging, and then simply drawing conclusions from those principles more coherently than they've been inclined to so far.
We seem to be speaking from experiences with somewhat different types of people despite the overlap you noted, but if it's even slightly helpful, I wrote about the ideological tendencies of liberal academics and how it relates to people at other levels of education here: https://hexbear.net/post/5277098/6249585 . That probably doesn't help, but I don't think I have adequate experience to address the sort of people that you are discussing because I have had much more trouble understanding how to communicate with them.
I tend to just avoid overly-specific discussions about Nordic "socialism" by explaining that those states function as the crown jewel of a blood-soaked beast that only exists on the basis of brutal imperialism (even if it still fails to live up to what it could do domestically to boot!). And I agree on Mao, of course. idk what you mean by "maoist" in this context, but he wrote many helpful texts and honestly you would probably find several of them more helpful than talking to me, like the Peasant Movement in Hunan, etc.
The issue is that's not really an argument against Islamism being a valid term, it's just saying that it gets weaponized by Islamophobes.
I also think it's strange to say that "jihad" is not ideologically distinct from the generic concept of "struggle" because the word can be translated to "struggle". That's not how language works either, it's a specific term with theological meaning. It would likewise be totally valid to use, to pick an arbitrary, the Mandarin word for "struggle" to connote the meaning of the term as Mao used it (which is not entirely different from jihad but clearly distinct from the generic term "struggle").