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[–] [email protected] 0 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (4 children)

In fact, one systematic review found that the average prevalence of surgical regret was 14.4% among all research studies analyzed

Holy shit that's actually crazy to me. [I actually tracked down that number because I was so curious] (https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1007/s00268-017-3895-9) It's over half cancer surgery. I've known that the regret rate for transition surgery was low for a long time, but that piece of context kinda blows my mind. You're more likely to regret a variety of life saving procedures than gender affirming surgery, and it's often by insane orders of magnitude.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

This is fairly common in both depression and ADHD, so maybe check on them? Like, make sure they are personally okay. Someone who needs to be consistently stimulated is probably uncomfortable at rest. Being bored all the time is something I struggle with personally. I have ADHD and depression and trauma. Addressing and working on those things helps immensely with the chronic boredom. When I'm more depressed or anxious, I'm more easily bored and crave more stimulation. So, yeah, play Ted Lasso and check in on them.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago

the models and movie stars and idols and influencers

Most of them don't actually "look like that." They are photographed from the best angles with expensive camera equipment and lighting. Then they select the best photos from a series of mediocre to great shots. These selected photos are often then edited. There are billions of women who could look like that if they had $20k to drop on a professional makeover and photoshoot

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago

Infochammel vibes

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago

Interestingly, I almost never have this problem since getting my hormones right. Getting lost in (or attacked by!) sex less thoughts used to occasionally plague our bedroom. Now sex is so fucking enormous that it tends to eclipse everything. My body is louder and more talkative than it used to be.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I just want to gloat about my dispensary in here. We're definitely where the cool queers get their weed. I've never been treated with anything but love and respect. The GM and AM both have significant personal connections to trans people in their lives. (The AM is my best friend, and I've seen her tense up at the notion that a random woman looked enough like her to be her sister, because she doesn't have a sister, and she will fight about it <3) The weekend closing manager is me. We are the only dispensary in town with the "Transgender safe space" tag on Google. (There are several with the LGBTQ friendly tag.) It's just all around a wonderful place to work and shop.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I work the way I do for me. As someone who is hyper focused on my job, I understand what you're getting at. Before my recent promotion, I was doing way more work than my coworkers for the same pay because I was work obsessed. But it was what I wanted to do. I am excellent at a job that is genuinely important.

At this point I have wholeheartedly embraced it. I've been even more focused since my promotion. I will be the convenience store woman, but for my dispensary. It makes me happy.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Port que no los dos? I want multiple partners and knives.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago

Sometimes the act of writing it down makes an idea stick to me. I never read the notes for the reminder. But sometimes I write a thing down, then file it away as complete because the note means it'll get done for sure! x_x

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago (5 children)

Did this work for you to begin with? This was always more of a nifty theory to me, like going to bed earlier to cure insomnia.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

Oh burnout, my old nemesis. I'm so incredibly grateful to have a job that lets me work four longer days. I will have a mental breakdown if I work five days a week, but I can work 11 hours like it's nothing. It has happened literally every time I have worked five days a week. But my current job appreciates my desire to concentrate my time on our busiest periods. I can maintain my high performance indefinitely with three days off.

 

I personally am in a phenomenally stable polyamorous relationship. I've been married to my wife for 12 years, and she has had the same boyfriend for about half of that time. It's a really fulfilling arrangement for all of us in various ways. We're all genuinely happy and satisfied. I'm kind of casually looking for a boyfriend of my own.

But I feel like I only hear negative stories about other poly experiences. It's always unstable people and situations. It's always two out of three people happy at most. Surely there are other success stories out there, and I just hear the disasters because they're more memorable and fun to tell. Does anyone else have or know a polyamory success story?

EDIT: This blew up a little while I was asleep. I promise I'm at least reading every comment.

EDIT 2.0: ngl I did not expect the trope of polyamory to fix a struggling relationship would be so real. We did just the opposite and are both baffled. Don't use volitility to fight the volitility.

 

Basically what it says on the can: why do you use weed? Are you a purely recreational user? Do you use for medical purposes, with or without a prescription? Do you use for a mental health condition? We're all probably some blend of these. What's your use case?

Personally, I do use cannabis medicinally to help me sleep. Neither weed nor melatonin cuts it alone, but weed and quick dissolve melatonin is just the right thing. I also use for recreational purposes. It's just fun to do things stoned. I also use heavily for religious/spiritual reasons. I'm a Discordian, and keeping a flexible mind full of doubt is important to that. Weed is helpful in resisting the siren call of comforting certainty. As a casual psychedelic, it keeps me thinking in interesting ways.

 

I love this thing. I wanted a Volcano for years. It feels like both science and magic at the same time. I can put enough flowers into me to be as stoned as I need to be without the gross respiratory effects. I've always struggled to use flowers through the winter months when holiday anxiety redoubles my weed need. Between this and my employee discount, I bet I can avoid my traditional holiday season drinking. If I can manage that, it'll have paid for itself twice. It was expensive af, but I paid for $200 of it with a gift card I got from a sales competition. So far it has been 100% worth it.

EDIT: Sync doesn't display my extra pictures! =O

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