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Yeah, people definitely don't understand that you can cut so much and bargain hunt the whole thing and still spend 15-20k. That's a"cheap" wedding. The average in my area is 33k. That's not because people are just spending frivolously and don't budget, that's because every single aspect of a wedding is expensive. Hell, tipping out the bar staff and photographer alone is expensive.

Skip it if you want, but even as a very frugal person, I'm very happy we had a huge party with lots of food and an open bar. It's worth it to spend money on life rites. Life rites are like half the point of being human!

If you don't care about celebrating with friends and family, don't spend the money, but for us sharing the day with the people we love and merging our families was important.

I think it's funny you used cheeseits as your example because that's one of the few things I won't buy generic of because they're just different. Little cookies, crackers, chips, and chocolates are usually brand specific in taste (though don't assume you prefer the name brand, you may prefer the generic!) so they're not fungible. I'd rather skip the calories than have generic cheeseits or Doritos.

Patch testing likely wouldn't have made a difference, this is about extended use that probably broke down her skin's barrier over time.

When I had a baby and then got COVID, I started washing my hands more often, and really too often. Using the same gentle non scented antibacterial soap I had been for years, I turned my hands into a dry cracked and bleeding mess, and when I used the same gentle non scented oatmeal moisturizer I have used for years, I ended up with insane burning on the backs of my hands, and a bright red burn/rash. This was all in about a week.

I stopped using hot water to wash, and only used soap on my palms/fingers. I waited for my skin to repair itself. Now I continue to use that same soap and lotion with no problem. It was never the products that were the problem, it was over use.

I once asked my male partner to wipe down the bathroom counter because my grandparents were coming over. He did a bad job. I got upset about it. He said my expectations were too high. He had left a dead bug on the counter.

We absolutely do not have too high of expectations.

The true answer is a bit embarrassing, but it's because my husband does our grocery shopping and he is bad with money. He will buy too much stuff because it's a "good deal" which just ends up costing more overall. I love him so much, and he has so many good qualities, but he's a real sucker for "deals" and that's all Costco is.

I'm using Costco pods and they are the best I've used. I don't pre rinse, I use it on old dishes. My dishes come out nice and clean. My sister cancelled her membership and now I have to find a new dishwasher pod dealer.

That's not necessarily a false sense of privacy if it works. There's an inconvenient barrier to searching vote history and if you do it in the current system you'd be recognized as petty at least. Easing access is not going to make Lemmy better.

You could always just assume they shoved something to the edge of the counter and it finally fell in. Besides, if it were important, they'd get up to investigate

I just say it in my head to myself. It has had a near 100% success rate for the past year. I don't understand it, yet it works!

Savage. I'm psyched about our ticket

I feel like an adult almost all the time, but it got more common when I gave birth. I'm not a kid. I'm not a teenager. I'm not a college student. I'm a grown adult and everything I do all day taking care of others is adult stuff. Even the fun moments of playing a video game or looking at my phone hidden behind a book, or the hard stuff where I have no idea what to do. I don't feel like a kid, I feel like an adult playing a fun game or an adult feeling confused and scared.

To me, being a kid meant feeling confident that everything was being taken care of for me. I don't get the adults feeling like kids thing when things are confusing or hard. When I was a kid my parents dealt with the hard stuff, or at least helped me deal with it

If you've been challenged to a foot race and you have the choice, wear your skeleton, muscles, and skin for your best chance at winning. If you're being made to pick only one, choose muscles over skeleton.