ChexMax

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It's my bodily autonomy. I'm a woman of child-bearing age. I even want to make a child sometime in the next four years. I'm risking my health. I can't move. I will end up broke with zero resources in another state, with no job, and my husband will need to start his career from scratch if we move. We just can't afford it. Plus wherever we move, we'll be separated from both our families who are local here. And again, even if we move, wherever we start over could just be red in two election cycles anyway. Moving isn't the answer.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago

Wear a reflective vest. It makes it obvious you're just trying to safely walk your dog, makes you less likely to be hit by a car and signals safety because dangerous people don't usually want to be conspicuous

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Fleeing my state isn't an option. Besides, my state didn't used to be red. A lot of states flipped or at least went from purple to red. So it's not even a guarantee if you uproot your entire family and life that you get to stay blue.

I feel so demoralized when this comes up, as if it's my own fault I'm living somewhere with terrible laws. I voted. I got other people to vote. I changed a few minds on abortion (not easy to do!). I don't have the money or resources to start somewhere else, and we're all about to have less money.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago

We (me, spouse and 1 child) rent a big house with my grandmother who I care for. It's 4 bedroom/2 bath, got a kitchen, living room, laundry room, a large dining room and extra living room that used to be a garage. It's my parent's place, while they live in an apartment for work.

The huge place is not worth it. I hate taking care of my grandmother. She has dementia and I'm burned out but we can't afford to live anywhere else.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago

Plus the grocery shopping!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

Make clue finders for adults! Same game, just adult level facts, puzzles, and math!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Thank you posting such an in depth and interesting explanation!

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 weeks ago

Yearly childcare is a years worth of income in plenty of places, so there's that too.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

What do you count as innocent? Like doesn't use products made in factories with human rights violations? I'm never gonna hit a million, but economists are saying we all need to have a Mil or three in order to retire? I know a couple million airs who seem like normal people, they're just business owners?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Huh. In my large city I have difficulty finding things in brick and mortar stores. Want a silicone tray for your air fryer? Walmart's website says they have them, but when you call the stores, they confirm they absolutely do not. Hobby lobby has it for 5x the price. No local stores come up as stocking them period, None other listed locally. I have this issue quite commonly. Maternity clothes sections just don't exist locally with any variety or consistency with sizes. Baby necessities, toys, and clothing is truly hit or miss in stores. You drive to the one store you think will have what you need and they closed two weeks ago.

I don't live in the boonies. If you live in the US, you've heard of my city. I am constantly running into the issue that things are only available online, and then Amazon is always the quickest shipping, and almost always the least expensive.

Fuck bezos and screw Amazon, but unless you're able to wait a week or three for everything you need, you don't have any good substitutes. I'd love to run out and buy it same day, but it's just not reliable to go to the store anymore.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago

It's not just totally unattractive guys trying to punch above their weight, it's also mid range guys who pick the hottest girl in the group and then sulk when she goes home with sometime else after doing nothing to make themselves her best option. And the sulking is pretty transparent which further lowers their attractiveness, and that kind of behavior definitely makes it back to everyone in the group. Guys really say no one will date me and literally only mean their first top choice won't date them.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I think the difference is that starfish just lie there, spread out, not really participating, and a pillow princess participates with words and moans, and their hands are roaming, and they're I think usually good receivers they just don't get on top and take a turn at the work part. They do motivate their partner to continue pleasing them though.

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