I think it's because people are overworked. No time for love, no time for friendship, sometimes not even enough time to take care of yourself properly.
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Sex researchers Baumeister and Tice wrote about sexual economics.
"A heterosexual community can be analyzed as a marketplace in which men seek to acquire sex from women by offering other resources in exchange."
From an evolutionary standpoint it makes sense that women wouldn't want a partner that can't provide security for the couple when the woman would be vulnerable if pregnant/nursing.
Young men in particular have fewer resources of value to offer than at any time in most people's lives. To that point, it's not like young women are dating any better, so even if they are willing to be the sole provider, most are unable to do so.
With the traditional partnership which historically provided companionship out of the question, men are left yearning for female companionship.
Another point the researchers make, is that men will always yearn, while women have a generally easier time abstaining until conditions are right.
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Lol. Bad joke. What I was getting at is people used to hang out at bars and drink more (alcohol use was worse). More generally, it's a lack of third places and car-based city design. More, and more engaging in-home entertainment/Internet also probably plays a part. Though, it's probably not a completely new phenomenon either, judging from art like Taxi Driver, Catcher In The Rye, etc. So, toxic or even plain masculinity likely makes it harder to make and keep close friends.
I'd bet female loneliness is also rising in modern society as well, due to modern phenomenon. Humans didn't evolve to live like we are. We used to mostly live in small, close-knit tribes.
I'm fallowing now.🥴
if men display feelings, they’re seen as bitches by men, and weak by women (exceptions exist, but generally speaking).
basically, a piece of toxic masculinity….
men are only allowed to display emotions of anger or mild happiness.
i think this is a big reason why sports are so popular… it’s more about camaraderie than anything else.
also why they like to get drunk and say “i love you man” and all that mushy stuff.
in a nutshell: because they’re taught to be that way.
Ignore all that and be yourself, if you're around people that treat you that poorly you should find yourself new friends
Hence the loneliness epidemic.
if men display feelings, they’re seen as bitches by men, and weak by women (exceptions exist, but generally speaking).
I don't care if "alpaha" males think I am a soyboy, but you ain't keeping a partner if she got the "ick"
And most women get the ick over random shit including something that they might perceive as unregulated emotions.
i agree… i just don’t think that’s an inherent thing in women and it’s a symptom of a sick society…
Good point, it could very well be. Sadly, it's really hard to tell why, and which women will respond with it. I've never heard a woman alluding to it irl, but I have seen them respond in both ways.
The ick is huge. The only woman most men can open up to without playing russian roulette is their mother (assuming a healthy relationship).
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