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I am going to come across like a condescending dick here, but real talk: Does Amazon have an EAP for access to counseling or therapy? If so, and you're not leveraging it already, I think you would benefit from doing so.
I agree with some of the sentiment you present in this thread, if not all aspects/means (the points about simplifying aspects of your life in general are well taken), but if you're not trolling even a little bit it sounds like you're suffering a lot.
Dang, this post needs a Fediverse equivalent to raisedbynarcissists.
You were raised by mindless people who constantly misused their time and money in ways that directly affected your daily life. Their anti-logical ways left you constantly neglected in some ways, despite the fact that they had the means to cover all your basic needs. This neglect was obvious to anyone who saw you day to day, but they blamed you because your family controlled many decisions that are normally left up to the kids.
That being said, you're not asking about "everyone" as your title says, you're asking about your family. Also, their words are complaining, but what they are doing is actually bragging. There is a high cultural value on being busy, and they've found ways to be VERY busy by having a literally insane way of life, with exhausting routines that are built around excess and waste.
Still, this is not a question for a broader audience, but a rant about one stubbornly insane family.
And the answer is, because they are more proud of their exhausting, difficult lives than you are proud of your planned, easy life.
edited to clarify and expand
I'm not entirely clear if this is a rhetorical question and you wanted to vent for a bit, or if you're genuinely looking for an answer?
If it's to vent, then I kinda understand. It sucks to see someone you love suffer. It sucks again when you think you found an answer and they tell you no. Each time you try again and get your answer rejected, the feeling gets worse and worse until you start blaming them for their own suffering. I've been on both sides of that.
They tell you to stay strong. That love and patience will change their minds eventually. On a level, it makes sense. If a problem has been persisting for decades, it's kinda unfair to think you can solve it overnight. It's likely the solution is also going to take years. But then you spend the time trying only to find more layers to the problem.
If you're looking for some kind of answer, then the best I can offer is it's Trauma. We all go through our own traumatic experiences. Events so bad it takes away a piece of us and leaves us scarred. Those scars change how we each approach or avoid situations. Not many people want to relive their traumatic experiences, even if it would lead to better lives.
Sorry if it's not the answer you're looking for.
Just tell us you're trolling without trying to convince people that you aren't.
Seems like everyone from the instance you're posting from, is just a trolling asshole.
I'm not, it's just my childhood is so crazy that it seems like a joke. That family suffered so much when they didn't need to. A relative spent her whole life suffering, and now she died from cancer. The most fun thing she did was play candycrush. That family's mother is worse than I thought.
But honestly, it's so validating that I suffered unnecessarily because of her. I've had the family and everyone say that I was the problem. I was the reason why I was a filthy kid who only showered with water. I was the reason why I had no lunch for school or juice at home. I was the reason why I'd come to school sick and spread the illness around.
They only saw the price tags on my clothes and assumed I chose those clothes. I never liked brand clothes, and if I had the choice, I'd get unbranded stuff and FUCKING BUY BODY WASH AND LUNCH INSTEAD! Like today! Where I NEVER run out of body wash! And I have something to drink all the time now that childhood is over and I CAN WORK! Fuck childhood. Thanks Amazon!
I hate automation to the point of being a Ludite. We're chasing our own tails. Every new luxury becomes a necessity we can't do without and we become enslaved
I feel like OP is high during the whole process of making this post and replying to comments. This shit is funny af
No, just remembering horrible experiences. I hate that family and that family's mother more.
I am not making fun of you nor judging the way you want to live, i just don't agree with it, that's all. Keep living as you wish, but just so you know the way you present this to people is flawed in some ways.
OP, someone with a different routine for chores is not "vehemently against an easier life" lmao.
All of you writing cogent arguments and being philosophical should step back and realize this whole thread is an unpaid advertisement for amazon subscription groceries written by someone who thinks they were saved by a job there.
I'm glad this is the top comment because lordy have mercy, what is OP on about.
Personally, I find "rough living" a helluva lot easier than the "convenient" world we have built. At least shit makes sense when you have to grow/hunt your own food, build your own shelter, etc. I would prefer to have to do all that, than the kinds of things I have to do in order to eat, have clothing and shelter, etc in society.
