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Discussion Thread 🪗 Saturday 5 July 2025 (aussie.zone)

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Little miss was crying today and I was concerned. But I forgot to block off the chair seat and the second I turned my back she was up there. She’s going to be jarring her joints jumping up and down from that!

Edit: I was going to buy her pet ramps but she goes out of her way to jump off to the side to avoid any padding or ramps I improvise. She just wants to jump!

Could it be she’s okay, and is just crying because she wants extra wet food and to get up on furniture she’s not supposed to?

I take it all very seriously at her age though.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

After that beef ravioli, I’m still alive and well !

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

That is good to hear.

If you were not alive and still posting here that would actually be a bit alarming. I'm really not ready for a zombie apocalypse.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Just christened the new soupmaker I got for the ol' girl / boy.

Morphy richards clarity thing.

Idea was to reduce use of the stovetop for her / less cleaning / quicker and probably safer.

First up, potat and leek. Shit that thing is fast. 21 mins. Maybe 5 mins of prep, 2 mins cleaning. Don't really eat that stuff but was actually surprisingly very good. Gave maybe 3-4 serves.

If she doesn't use it it'll still save me a shitload of time and hassle.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

I hope everythings started to settle down man ❤️

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

kiwis were the cutest thing i've seen all week other than mr seagoon

pictures coming soon, right now I'm off t the beach 😊

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

Clear and sunny with lots of wind = good drying weather. I am loving having some decent outdoor drying space in this place, everything smells better having been outdoors and the wind helps get rid of some of the excess pet hair and dust that's always around. I've already managed to do a load of clothes and a load of towels, I now have sheets on the line and another small load of clothes in the washing machine.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (4 children)

family shit

My mum does this thing with my sister where she brings up a problem she has way after the fact. It makes my sister feel terrible.

My sister, a week ago, who has her own place but comes to visit on the weekends: Mum, I'm going to dog sit for a friend this weekend so I'll be staying over at hers

Mum: OK

My mum today: we have a dog here and you're going to sit someone else's dog? I can't even go away and have a weekend for myself because I have to watch him. He doesn't even want to go for a walk more than 100 metres!

Sister starts feeling guilty and anxious and has a panic attack. I get that my mum is sick of having to look after the dog and is annoyed, but my sister told her she was going to dogsit a week ago, and my mum said nothing about going away this weekend.

I thought my emotional regulation problems were just an innate thing, although I reckon if my parents could regulate their emotions and communicate better, it would've been a bit easier on my end.

My mum grew up in a household where her parents fought and her mum in particular cannot regulate her emotions and often goes from 0 to 100 in an instant. If this woman says anything and you disagree, she throws a fit. She has no self-awareness whatsoever.

But I hope that if I ever have kids, I break this cycle. I fear I'm already too much like the bad parts of my parents. It's not on.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

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cannot regulate her emotions and often goes from 0 to 100 in an instant. If this woman says anything and you disagree, she throws a fit. She has no self-awareness whatsoever.

I really doubt she doesn't know

I bet she can regulate very well when it's not something she wants or it's to her advantage

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 days ago

Yup.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Ahhh. That’s manipulative as hell. She refuses to communicate a want or a need and then uses the lack of it as a weapon. This isn’t about the dog, it’s about control.

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Also the things your dad says to you are emotional abuse.

I’m sorry if I’ve ever been unintentionally insensitive towards you in the past because holy shit.

I need you to know that none of this is your fault and nothing your family thinks or says of you is true. It might be a really good idea to prioritise whatever career will be stable and well paid enough that you have the choice to move out and be independent from them.

Also you might want to know that being raised like this means you’re less likely to spot abusive people or identify behaviours as abuse. And there is a danger of you internalising it and blaming yourself for it rather than clocking it and getting out of Dodge.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

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Don't worry, you haven't been insensitive at all. In fact, when I was in a shitty relationship and posted about it on here, you replied to my post, and I took a screenshot of it and read it often to remind myself that what I was dealing with was not good for me. I really appreciate all the advice you've given me.

I feel as though abuse is a loaded term, and I see it more as dysfunction. I'm dealing with people who mean well, but are misguided and express it in the wrong ways. Just like I don't mean for them to be annoyed when I talk too much. I just want connection. My dad tells me that he loves me and wants the best for me, but has thrown the other stuff on top when he's upset.

I have spoken about this to my psych, and we are going to do an appointment with them so she can talk about how they can better support me. To be honest though, I'm tired and I think my parents are tired. I haven't spent quality time with my mum in ages, because she used to be a SAHM and her life revolved around my sister and I, and being a housewife. Moving out could definitely help set a boundary so that our interactions involve quality time.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

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That’s good, I’m glad.

Re abuse I was talking about the future, warning you you could be more vulnerable to it.

Dysfunction might be a better word, yes. But these behaviours are sending up red flags and I can see you’re feeling the strain. If it’s a stable option and something you can cope with it might give everyone some breathing room. Hopefully.

Just be warned that leaving home is a big step. If people feel like you’re pulling away from them, or they’re losing control over you or the situation, or things are changing too fast to cope… their behaviours might escalate.

Just make sure to get your bag and ensure you have options. Having money, a job, and trustworthy friends are all important ways to protect yourself in life.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yea that sucks.

If your mum was told a week ago that's all on her. I'm sure there's probably a compromise here somewhere but your sis shouldn't feel bad about it if there's not. Sounds a bit manipulative.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago (2 children)

When my sister is not in the office, she works from here and stays with the dog.

My mum and sister ended up talking about it, and it turns out all my mum wanted was a time that she's going to be back here after dogsitting. But it had to come out like that.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (4 children)

I need to buy a present for a 1st birthday I’m going to next week (for a boy). I was thinking some clothes (bigger size he can grow into) and maybe a kid’s book? Any other ideas? Budget is $50 - $75.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 days ago

The noisiest possibly toy in your budget.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

My go to for that age group was bath toys, simple puzzles, those hard cardboard paged books, simple musical instruments (but nothing that's a choking hazard). At that age it's gotta be stuff that's ok to put in their mouth. You're on the money with bigger clothes: suddenly you're dressing them one morning and their clothes don't fit anymore!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

Books are always good. Grab a sturdy binding edition of whatever 'classic' appeals to taste and inscribe it. It can be read to them now, and read by them when they grow into it. Maybe Magic Pudding?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago

Gin for the parents. Nothing for the kid.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Tried a new gym class this morning and while I got my ass handed to me, it feels pretty bloody good. Long way to go, but happy to make small steps!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

💪🏼👏🏼 Go you!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Alrighty. Going to meet the new PT.

Here's hoping he's cool and can help fix my shoulder.

In other news, the reconfiguration I mentioned a few weeks ago is going well. Mood and energy levels have stabilised. Motivation is lower than normal but not too bad.

Edit:went great with the PT! Chill guy and showed me some great stuff for my shoulder.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Club bells / swings are good shoulder mobility exercise.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

Sweet! Will add them in when I speak to the PT.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It was a great night last night. Looking forward to a great day today.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Cheers to the nudity and day drinking 🍻

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

Perfect weather for it

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

Woo hoo 🍺

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

Facebook managed to create duplicate listings so I woke up to a bunch more "is this available?" messages 🤣 No. No it is not.

I managed a nice late sleep in this morning. I intend to do very little today. Maybe a nice meandering dog walk, mixing up the new batch of dog food, and I should rescue the terrarium from the car as it is probably wondering where all the light's gone.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Today we are going to visit a kiwi sanctuary. 🐤😍

here are some pics from yesterday 😊

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Lovely pics - those waves look glorious! The shell collection is so pretty!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 days ago

The waves and water is just so beautiful, the colour is that blue with the slightest green colour you seen in old glass . 😊

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Nice shell haul!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

Thank yooou, I love it, every single shell is new to me 😍

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

🤩🥰🤩🥰♥️

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

😘😘😘

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Third night of getting less than 8 hours of sleep. Only got five hours of sleep and I have to go to work 😭 probably because I drank coffee at like 2pm yesterday and used a giant PC.

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