I try to be myself with my excitement but it ends up overwhelming people
Damn. Too real.
this post was submitted on 08 Jul 2023
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I feel this to my soul. And for the longest time I didn't know it was ADHD. I just thought I was a lazy piece of shit.
I feel like I have untreated ADHD, but at this point I have no idea how exactly to get the proper help and sometimes I am too afraid to ask. What should I be looking out for in finding treatment?
What's called 'untreated adhd' in this image is in fact just normal personality traits that most people experience.
Just like everyone gets sad but not everyone gets depressed, everyone experiences ADHD symptoms but only some have ADHD. It is about the frequency and severity of the impact on your life.
Everybody pees, but if you're doing it 80 times a day there's probably an issue.
Increasingly in my life, I've found this to manifest as an intolerance of frustration. Need a tool that's not at hand? That project's never getting finished. Anyone have methods for coping with this?
People don't understand that beating yourself up is still a shot of dopamine. Drama, including drama limited to your head... It's still dopamine.
Depression, sure, but the constant negatives that come with adhd is still a steady dopamine IV drip.
I havent been diagnosed but im sure i have it. Getting a diagnosis is a pain in the ass in austin. That being said i think i have gotten better at recognizing when i am in an abnormal state like depression. My mind starts getting cloudy or darker and feel it get heavier. If that makes any sense
I went to my primary care doctor about it, and I matched every attention/stress criteria on their sheet, but I dodn't have anger issues so they said I didn't have ADHD. Yet every time I see a post like this it matches exactly. It's weird to say I think I have ADHD when a doctor has told me I don't have it... But I still think I have it, it just matches too well.
So I guess welcome to the undiagnosed gang, good to have you
Yup. Also applies if you're diagnosed but having to rawdog all of it because your body can't tolerate either ADHD meds or antidepressants. So you're stuck trying to kludge together solutions with behavioral, cognitive and lifestyle changes and it's like trying to build a sand castle with powdered sugar. Maybe you can make something stick together a bit, but one big sneeze and it's all gone.
Wait based on this list I am depressed, any more symptoms?
If you think you might be depressed, it’s best to look for a psychiatrist who can make an assessment. I’m providing this info for educational purposes only, please don’t diagnose yourself.
To be officially diagnosed with depression, you’d need to have at least five of the following symptoms for at least 2 weeks, and at least one of the boldened symptoms needs to be present:
- Depressed mood
- Loss of interest/pleasure in almost all activities
- Significant weight loss or gain without dieting or significant decreases or increases in appetite.
- Sleeping too much or too little nearly every day.
- Moving too much or too little nearly every day in a way that’s noticeable to other people.
- Feeling fatigued and devoid of energy nearly every day.
- Feeling worthless or inappropriately guilty nearly every day.
- Having brain fog and indecisiveness.
- And, finally, having thoughts of suicide.
More goes into the diagnosis (like for example ruling out medical conditions and substance use), so once again, please don't just diagnose yourself based on this list.
Do I have untreated ADHD? I hate this.
You are voluntarily here and finding common ground with an ADHD meme. If you've felt like there's something different about you and have been waiting for a Sign, this is it.
Just keep an open mind, since a lot of different things can cause ADHD like symptoms. "I actually don't have ADHD" is also important information, and a good psychiatrist or therapist can help guide you to wherever the truth lies.
I've had a feeling that I might have it for a while but idk what to do. It seems like there's probably not a sureshot way to know I have it? And if I don't, it'll always feel like an excuse to other people.
This is literally the diagnostic criteria: https://add.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/adhd-questionnaire-ASRS111.pdf
Have a go and see if the questions resonate
Thank you so much for that link.
A lot of these questions hit close to my own experiences. I should really get something done about this.
Thank you.
Ha, wow. I think I need to make an appointment 😅
OOF
I was wondering why all these memes were attacking me so much...
And after 40+ years of suffering in get diagnosed, and medicated, and now all the meds are backordered... Back to my old ways
And building yourself back out of depression once treatment starts isn't an overnight thing
I was diagnosed like 3 months ago at 29
It's a night and day difference but it's still a bit rough at times
But I'm working on it and now that I'm able to stay focused on a task it's easier than before, but it's not easy
If you don’t mind me asking, as a stranger, did you start meds? My partner was recently diagnosed at 28, and started meds, but I’m not sure how well they’re working.
I did start meds but I've noticed that the key factor in how well they work is how I spend the first hour of my day.
If I open YouTube or social media the day is a wash.
If I start the day making breakfast listening to music with the idea of doing things that day, it goes great.
One thing that really helps me go with the second option is having a tab already open from the day before that has a playlist I can just start. And it's the only one open.
I was diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD so my experience may be different than someone diagnosed with Hyperactive ADHD.
Also be sure that they're doing more than just meds, education about various ways of managing ADHD in conjunction with meds will lead to far better outcomes than those things separately.
Or maybe the meds don't work for them and they need to try something different. One of my friends tried 3 different meds before they landed on one that worked.