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[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago

I hate the sensation of having to get wet. It is a little overwhelming and I have to force myself to shower to be a presentable human being. I have severe KP and whatever else is wrong, so I have to scrub and scrub and scrub to get the flaky dead skin off so that when I get out I don't get overwhelmed by the extreme itching and sometimes almost burning sensation. Trying to manage the skin condition with all the special creams, scrubs, and gentle soaps is almost impossible for me to keep up with, even though I know it will help.

It is the transitions that is the hard part, not so much showering. Any kind of transition can be hard. The number of times I have fully gotten ready, so I can go work in the office or maybe a coffee shop, and end up not leaving at all is rather annoying. I like going to work somewhere else for the day, but that transition can be a hill we don't always get over. Especially when I don't have any particular pressure to leave the house.

TLDR; Focus on the transitions are hard part of the comic, not the showering.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago

I don't want to go to bed. I don't want to get out of bed.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (2 children)

No no, you don't understand, everything is an ADHD thing. Nobody has traits or idiosyncrasies, everything is merely a reflection of their unique psyche and not experienced by other people.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Hmm I think most people will relate to enjoying showers and not wanting to get out. The ADHD part is the functional impact. Like my showers tend to be 30 minutes long at least even when I’m trying to be quick, but at the same time I only shower max three times a week. I’m pretty sure that’s not part of the neurotypical experience but happy to be corrected.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago

I'm neurotypical, and that's an exact description of my shower habits. Quality over quantity.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Are you showing 60 times a day

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I don't see showering 60 times per day in the image so I'm not sure where you're getting that number or what it has to do with ADHD or lack of.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Nobody is sure what this has to do with ADHD

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago

Enjoying warm showers = ADHD obviously

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

This is not an ADHD thing, everyone is like this.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Does everyone put off showering until they absolutely have to / risk social standing over it? I shower once a week. Twice when I have an office job. Once every 10 days if I don't. Everybody has quirks. When those quirks negatively affect your life that's when it gets into neurodivergent territory

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Some people like showering or the feeling of being clean.

But that is definitely not everyone.

Don't you know the stereotype of high schoolers using deodorant instead of taking a shower?

It isn't an ADHD thing.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago

It can be an ADHD thing, and also a regular thing 🤷🏼‍♀️ insomnia is a symptom of depression, but not everyone who has trouble sleeping is depressed.

I love the feeling of being clean and fresh the day of/ after a shower. I assumed everyone does. That doesn't really help me get into the shower.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago

Imagine my displeasure at having to shower without a shower curtain for 2 years. Never bothered to put one up bc I didn't think I'd live in this apartment for this long... I hate every minute of showering in the winter.

(Also, it's not an ADHD thing in my case, the bathroom is a weird shape that doesn't allow for a simple rod and curtain, I'd have to get a semi custom glass wall installed)

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago

This is why I take 20 minutes to shower. The water bill is worth it.