@BackOnMyBS I finally figured out how to properly communicate when I'm confused about someone's behavior or their perception of my behavior, I've been able to get more context in conversation as well as avoid certain arguments due to miscommunication/misinterpretation
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Congrats! I'm working on learning that. Any tips??
@BackOnMyBS It's not entirely straightforward, but I find that stating "I'm confused because you said 'x' which I interpreted as 'y' and this thing you're saying now I interpret as being 'z' doesn't seem consistent, what am I not understanding" (doesn't have to be those exact words)
Or if it's something I said I apologize for the confusion, state my intentions behind what I said, and try to say it in a different way based off how they interpreted the last thing I said
@BackOnMyBS It's been a lot of trial and error mostly, but that's my general framework, it varies by person, someone who understands autism more is usually a little easier to work with, for example
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Congrats on a life changing accomplishment!
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It is very hard to type now.
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heh, nice
Unimaginable feat, good job.
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