Good thing he offered though. That was finally big and explicit enough an offense to allow her to report him and end the smaller, subtler harassment she had to suffer until then for the sake of customer service.
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This is giving Asperger's as fuck. Someone should have told him to just give her his number then walk away.
I can see how someone would make this mistake. On the other hand, it's not hard to see why this is a bad idea.
Here's the situation. Approaching or propositioning anyone while they're at work is going to come off poorly since they're backed into a corner. They're a captive audience, as they must be in that space in order to get paid. In the case of retail, not only are they supposed to be nice to you, but they often can't physically avoid you lest they get in trouble for poor service. In the end, the already hard job of saying "no" is made much worse by compounding it with proper workplace behavior. And even if they would find your advances interesting in any other setting, it's the workplace that's likely to sour things.
Edit: Anon needs to do this in a setting where everyone can come and go freely, in a place where people deliberately go to be social.
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Yeah its hard to tell sometimes if women are playing with you or not. Good rule of thumb is if its been a long time since youve hung out with a girl, give her some extra space and see if she tries to close it with you. If not no loss
Another good rule of thumb is to assume that if she was working, it was just customer service and she's not actually into you.
Another great rule of thumb is to assume she's Canadian and just being polite.
Yep
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She was upset he didn't offer to suck the toes too
I can be a pretty naive guy. I am continually amazed not just by the volume, but by the varieties of creepiness that women have to put up with on a daily basis. WTF, Anon?
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Poor guy, gotta start somewhere though.
Start by learning, "retail employees have to act friendly and be nice to you. It has nothing to do with their actual feelings."
It's good practice for "women often have to act nice to men they don't like, because they're afraid of being harmed by them before they can get to safety."
retail employees have to act friendly and be nice to you
As an European, if a retail employee ever acts friendly or even smiles at me I'm not setting foot in that retail chain ever again.
I don't want creepy freaks bothering me while I'm trying to shop, I just want to shop and be left alone unless I ask for something (which would also be a red flag, the products should be sufficiently well organised and labelled that asking will never be necessary).
Haha, I worked in a high-end gift shop and spent my day reading labels for ladies too vain to wear reading glasses.
I'd help them pick out the gift they needed, often for their mother in law which I think is unfair, it's HIS mom. Then while we wrapped the gift, they'd get several other items for their own home.
We weren't on commission so it was never a "hard sell," and I was always sensitive to people who prefer to shop alone because I do too. But some customers want attention or at least human interaction.
And sometimes I would take a mom's little kids around the store, showing them the things it was okay to touch and steering them away from the fragile porcelain, so their mom could relax enough to think about what she needed to get. Fortunately we had a section of "grandma gifts for children" so I could always take them there if she was comfortable having them out of her sight.
And then a few times a year we'd get a man, who was shopping for his wife or his own mother! We'd always help them out because they'd be lost, and often it was less about finding the things, and more about asking about her, so we could help them figure out what she might enjoy and appreciate.
I understand not wanting them to bother you, but even if they smile?
If I wanted to be creeped out I'd go to a haunted house or something like that, not to a store.
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As stated, you gotta start somewhere. Nobody is born knowing what to do or how to keep mouse from pissing themselves.
Still, if instead of talking to her multiple timers during her shift and creeping her out with the footrub offer, he could have just asked her for a coffee after work, which she could politely decline. After that, he could leave her alone, and still occasionally shop at the same Walmart.
Yes, seeing if she's okay with meeting outside the retail context is the test. If not, go no further.
Honestly her liking him or just pretending is irrelevant. Start by learning "offering to rub someone's feet (or any other somewhat intimate touching) is NOT a good way to flirt, even if they do like you!"
Well he learned that this time lol
Though I gotta say banning him from the store seems excessive
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Yes, that too!
Oof. There's fucking up, and then there's getting banned from Wal-Mart. The only lower position is getting banned from the dollar store.
In order to be banned from a dollar store, the one employee working there would have to Home Alone the place to keep you out
Hey now. There's SOMETIMES a second employee!
Well, they have to hand over the single key to the store at some point from one employee to their successor when they retire.
It's completely normal to ask a stranger to let you touch their feet. /s
Worked for jesus.
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He's not the Messiah, he's a very naughty boy!
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