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This is an article about the online communities of people who abstain from masturbation. It discusses the reasons people join these communities and the potential harms and benefits. Some people find these communities helpful in overcoming pornography addiction. However, there is concern that these communities spread inaccurate information and may overlap with extremist groups.

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[–] [email protected] 55 points 9 months ago (2 children)

There's gonna be a really weird uptick in prostate cancer in 30-40 years.

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[–] [email protected] 43 points 9 months ago (3 children)

"I have seen claims on social media saying that semen retention can boost your testosterone levels, cure erectile dysfunction, make you more manly, make you stronger, cure depression, make you more successful, clear your skin," says Ashley Winter, a urologist who has been publicly critical of nofap ideas.

"And there is no medical evidence that it does any of those things," she says, adding that in many male adults, abstaining from ejaculation will merely result in "nocturnal emissions," or wet dreams.

Why would your body respond to a perceived glut of mating (your body cannot tell the difference between intercourse and masturbation) with erectile disfunction? That would be a negative response spiral that would ensure extinction. It's actually the other way around: if functions of your body aren't getting used, they get cannibalized to save energy. This is why people with penises get erections at night: your body is ensuring it still works. Same reason why nocturnal emissions happen. Your body will ensure you can successfully mate even if you aren't mating on a regular basis.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (4 children)

wait so I can commit to not working out so hard that I actually cannibalize my body fat? Pog

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 9 months ago (1 children)

MISINFORMATION... on the INTERNET... REALLY!? !? !?! /s :-P

[–] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago (1 children)

There is no misinformation on the internet and you can quote me on that.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

A-a-are you sure you are okay with people knowing that we funded terrorism together? /s :-P

[–] [email protected] 84 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (7 children)

"Nothing scares me. Nothing hurts me anymore," a young YouTuber tells the camera as snowflakes cut across the frame. He is shirtless in a Michigan January, he tells viewers, to make a point about embracing discomfort in order to become a great, powerful man.

The YouTuber, who goes by the handle iamLucid, tells the camera he can stand the below-freezing temperature because he has been taking cold showers every day and, crucially, hasn't masturbated to pornography in a year.

"That's the most beta thing you can do. That's the weakest thing any man can do," he says.

Like the idiot fucking Boomers before them, these people are preaching putting up with the bullshit you're abused with as being "strong."

Good job being an effective slave you fucking idiot. Good slaves think they're strong because the abuse they suffer doesn't bother them.

Yeah, working forty years for the same motherfucker who keeps paying you less year after year while paying himself more really shows how "tough" you fucking idiots are.

"I don't cry when my daddy abuses me," isn't the fucking flex you think it is, guys. It means you're broken, not strong. People who punch dad in the fucking nose and get his abusive ass arrested are strong. People who put up with abuse are weak and broken.

Good to see young men are just as fucking stupid as their forebears. /s


Young Men: "Everyone assumes we're all terrible just because we're men, we're not given a chance!"

Also Young Men: Immediately embrace fucking backwards ass thinking that really justifies the assumption that they're all fucking terrible by default.

If they're trying to prove otherwise, they're fucking failing because they are god damned idiots obsessed with cro-magnon strength like that matters in the modern world.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

This is an excellent comment.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Thanks, it's really just me ranting into the void. They can't all be zingers.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago

"I don't cry when my daddy abuses me," isn't the fucking flex you think it is, guys. It means you're broken, not strong. People who punch dad in the fucking nose and get his abusive ass arrested are strong. People who put up with abuse are weak and broken.

This part reminded me of the Behind the Basters episodes on Henry Kissinger. He would routinely get beat up by Nazi kids when he was still in Germany, but once he was an adult he would brag about how it never really bothered him.

We saw how that worked out.

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[–] [email protected] 42 points 9 months ago (4 children)

A national poll conducted in late 2022 found that 4 out of 10 Americans believe society has become too "soft and feminine." Former Fox News host Tucker Carlson did a special for Fox in 2022 called The End of Men, drawing attention to "the decline of manhood, of virility, of physical health, all of which together threaten to doom our civilization."

Well that's fucking depressing but lines up with the MAGA banner comprised of the insecure and ignorant.

Wonder what society of manliness they want to go back to... Lynchings? The dark ages?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Tucker is one of the last people I would take advice from on, well anything, but masculinity in this case.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

You can actually be a manly man without being complete arse. I understand some of the backlash against feminism. Boys are struggling in our school systems. Title 9 is actually used to admit more young men to colleges now, for decades now actually.

I can even understand the popularity of some of the pick up artists who are popular among men who are not quite the “ladies man”. Better yourself, find things that help make you a better person. Get a hobby, work out. Make yourself interesting.

But these right wing pundits are fucking crazy.

I don’t like the term toxic masculinity (edit: if you are trying to better yourself and you say I don’t want to espouse toxic masculinity, I see that as useful (What i mean is that trying to apply it to anyone who offends or upsets you can be problematic.) other than as an idea discussed among academia, but god damn these asshats.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

If it helps, there's a noticeable trend recently - except it's not just recently and probably hearkens all the way back prior to the dawn of the human species - where people do not mean what they say. I mean... I am being genuine here!:-)

It highly correlates, though is not exclusive to, people being as dumb as a bag of rocks.

e.g. Jesus commands "Love everyone - especially those you do not agree with", and thousands of years prior the Old Testament said things like "the worker deserves their wages" (as well as tiny little details about tassels and the hems of robes and shit like that), hence Karens (male & female alike) ignore all the stuff they want to, while twisting the meaning of whatever they can get their hands on of that to kill people with (taking a handful of words in isolation, discarding the context, often not even finishing the entire fucking sentence - e.g. "there is now therefore no condemnation, for those that walk according to his path" an important if highly inconvenient, for them, part!). For goodness' sake, the Old Testament literally prescribes a formula for "bitter herbs" to cause an abortion!

And the people that showed up on January 6? Hint, they weren't "patriots".

So if we use the definitions of an idiot, we are going to come away with a ah ... "skewed perspective" of said thing - often 180 degrees in opposition to what it was supposed to mean. Hence, I am totally okay with the term "toxic masculinity", defined in the Oxford Dictionary as:

a set of attitudes and ways of behaving stereotypically associated with or expected of men, regarded as having a negative impact on men and on society as a whole.

And if asshats are misusing it, even abusing it lately? Well, they suck, so why would I give one second's thought to what they want? :-D

I hope that perspective helps, or at least is interesting.

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