i mean people tend to like confidence, also you get to stop wallowing in ignorance. conventionally attractive or not, either they say yes or no and then you get to move forward from there. going from not knowing to knowing, that is a positive.
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Definitely. Looking like Henry Cavill makes it easier, but confidence is really the main attraction. I know less attractive men sleep with Victoria's Secret-type women. And there is actually a study on men who are perpetually single, and the common denominator is being under-confident. But at the same time, you don't want to be overconfident and thus arrogant.
oh totally. my wife is gorgeous, and she spent a bit too much time in our social circles single because everyone (myself included) was too intimidated to ask her out. we were friends for ages, she started giving me a hard time about having her number for like eight years but never asking her on a date, my ego wasn't going to stand for that and here we are.
To be fair, it took her years to ask you to ask her. She could have just asked too.
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Sooooo..... we're doing incel shit posting now?
This sort of black pill doomerism seriously destroys your mental health. You don't have to be a Chad to find a girlfriend friends, but thinking your not "conventionally attractive" enough to date is a self fulfilling prophecy.
I just thought it was funny personally.
It is, but they are also right.
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I don't know where I saw it, and I can't seem to find it again, but I remember one video where a girl uses Cavill as an example of what SOME women find attractive. He's good-looking, yes, but what really got her was how he can talk about his interests with such passion. I'm obviously paraphrasing.
As someone with crippling ADHD, if impassioned talking about my interests is cool, consider me Miles Davis.
Problem is, the same girl who finds it attractive will find it annoying in a week or two, and all of a sudden that thing she liked makes me a jerk.
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Must be nice to be super hot, very well known, and incredibly wealthy.
you know this isn't a real quote, right?
... but yeah I'm sure it doesn't hurt