This is a red flag. It means he listens exclusively to Nickelback and Creed.
this post was submitted on 07 Jul 2023
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Kudos to you for demonstrating interest in getting to know whoever you cross on these platforms (a rarity these days...) ππ½
I relate to your discomfort. I usually unmatch or block such vibes bc the point of these apps is to date, which implies getting to know each other. If one is unwilling to put in the work (as minimal as it may seem), just spare folx who are interested in the above.
So much has changed in the dating scene. Sometimes, I am asked why I am being nosy or psychoanalyzing them. π Dude, you're on a dating app, right?
P.S.: I respect boundaries, but such questions are essential in familiarizing oneself with someone.
You use the term "you" a lot here. This is an old post, so you're not going to be talking to the actual person that experienced this
sometimes I wonder if the point of those apps are not to suggest having sex, but since normal conversations don't work, I really don't know anymore.
oh yeah and by the way, we cannot talk to women in the street, it's creepy.
Something I was dearly hoping wouldn't find its way over here from Reddit: screenshots of posts which erase the posters' identity for no good reason.
Giving proper credit for content is cool, kids.
It's was Nickelback
What did Nickelback ever do to you?
I'm pretty amazed that people don't immediately hear the stereotypical doucheyness, as well as the teenager-pandering, intelligence-insulting, terrible messages the moment they hear Nickelback.
Maybe I don't hate Nickelback for the same "gut" reasons the internet does, but I sure do hate them.
Time to move to the next chat.
Basically why they are single, you must be desperate lmfao
But you got to know what kind of person she is, right? The app did its job.
He's thinking "what does music have to do with me getting sex as quickly s possible?"
It's kind of nice when people reveal themselves to be insufferable douchebags at the outset rather than wasting your time.
her persistence indicates he is physically attractive
You don't want to date that guy, let the process work.
This is literally out of these incel playbooks. Straight up tater tot bullshit lmao.
"It's something you've never heard of"
"How do you know?"
"...because I'm never going to tell you about it"
Maybe it's just a super closely guarded musical secret he has to keep. The cabal of music keepers does not take blabbermouths lightly
If it is any consolation for them, they definitely learned everything they needed to know.
Bro doing "being mysterious" the wrong way
Bro is being long term single if this is his game.
You know... It's seeing this type of stuff I'm so happy I found my wife the old fashioned way before dating apps existed.
white text on yellow background, that's infuriating
When you're actually using the app instead of having the compression artifacts of being screenshot several times, it's not as bad.
It doesn't make it less of a crime against good design. Low contrast for reading is bad practice.
I don't care if you're watching it in 32k on Odin's personal account, white on yellow is NEVER acceptable for ANYTHING.
It assails the eyes.
I had to zoom in on my phone just to be able to read that!
Id say she got to know just about eveything she needed to know about this person.
"Why do girls keep ghosting me? I'm such a nice guy! Bohooohoooo"
Someone's insecure about his Shakira collection.
Seriously though, I'm guessing this guy either doesn't like music at all (I've known a few and they act like this) or got made fun of a lot for his music tastes in high school. It's a shame this guy is probably a walking insecurity.
Which is a great reason to unmatch him and move on.
I didnβt even know it was humanly possible to not like music at all. What were they like? Like their personalities? Did they seem sociopathic or were they generally βnormalβ?
There's a lot of good examples in the comments, but the few Ive ran into were more indifferent thsn anything - like, they never heard anything that appealed to them. One guy I knew actively avoided music because it'd get stuck in his head and drive him nuts.
They seemed normal otherwise, for the most part. But they knew that disliking music was weird and were a little insecute about it.
I used to not like music at all and 15 year old me would have probably responded just like this guy. But for me it was more that I didn't know what I liked until I heard it. Everyone around me exclusively listened to top 40 and RnB, or techno/house. I seriously thought there was something wrong with me cos I hated everything I heard. And then I heard metal for the first time, and everything changed.
Nobody's normal, we are all weird in our own way.
People do that when they donβt have an answer. I canβt remember the last song Iβve saved, for instance.
What does "saving" a song even mean? I'm old and confused
It's just something your average 25 year old does, why do you want to know so bad?
liking/favoriting/adding to a playlist, etc
This is so weird. The first response was somewhat acceptable if in a joking manner but then he quintuple downed.
As a dude...
Dude...
The last four songs I've listened to on YouTube are three pirate shanties and "We Know The Way" from the Moana soundtrack. I'm not answering this question either. :)
Smart move. Wouldn't want to intimidate anyone with your superior taste in music
Honestly though that's the exact kind of thing I would want to know- the real you, not the you that tell me you are.
If someone does not take the least amount of effort to answer a simple question like that one .... then he doesn't care about you in the slightest.
"But its a generic question!"
Two words: common courtesy.
People (guys usually) also answer like this when they are trying to tell you exactly what you want to hear so that you'll sleep with them. They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they've lost their chance. It's a very manipulative mindset. He was like a deer in the headlights, not knowing if any answer he gave would be the right answer since he doesn't know her at all yet. So he stalls, hoping she'll drop it.
Or he might just be an idiot.
Either way, drop them and move on to somebody who will be real with you.
Yeah, that was my thought as well. This is the type of person who is only going to say something of they think it will impress you. The second possibility is that they will share nothing of themselves, period. In either case, they don't seem like good relationship material.
They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, theyβve lost their chance.
To be fair, that's usually correct. Women have their pick of men, generally. If a guy answers a band she doesn't like, most likely she'll move on.
So guys lie and tell her everything she wants to hear. And then once they get their foot in the door, they can start telling the truth.
This guy handled it very badly but I can see why he didn't want to answer.
Yeah I may not be a relationship expert but if I have to lie for an ice breaker not even a deep question just an ice breaker I donβt think that relation will work
In other words, playing games, i.e trying to "tick her funne bone" so he gets someone else to play instead of himself. But what most of those guys fail to acknowledge is that "tickling her funne bone" takes time -- it's not a "free pussy pass" of any sort that you "say it", and she goes "WHOOAAA fuck me mister! Fuck me right NOW!". That is not "acting tough" or smart, but acting like a douche.