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There's certain things that are seen as classically female. Shopping, kids, crafting, gossip etc are all seen as women's stuff, but we dont all like them. What classically female things do you like?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

A lot of times I'm not sure what's definitively feminine or masculine because the social norms tend to shift. This is stuff that feels feminine to me though:

I love the gothic side of femininity. Pentacles and black dresses and dark makeup and horror movies. One of my best friends is pagan, and I'm in her coven for moral support and the much cooler Pagan holidays (Yule > Christmas). I'm actually not embarrassed to say I was big into the Twilight craze in high school and I still love bands like Evanescence and Lacuna Coil to this day.

I think we're at the point where fantasy novels are female-coded. I too get the feminine urge to slay the Witch-King.

Is hiking and camping a femme thing? I'm a nature girl 🍁

Aside from that, sewing, gardening, manicures, aromatherapy, Aggretsuko, fall, pumpkin spice lattes, and rom-coms if they're written well. (My fave is "The Holiday.")

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 28 minutes ago) (1 children)

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago

I have not! I'll have to check it out!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Shopping, gossip/bitching, candles and other nice smelly things like diffusers, sewing, makeup/nails/cosmetics, accessories (including crafting them) and quite a few more things I can't think of right now but its a shame how so much of it is seen as stereotypically regressive or people judge for it...

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

To a point I really don't like gendered "hobbies".

I'm really tired of society telling me what it feminine and what it not. "Kids" is femine? I've met more men desperate for kids than I have women. I'm the most "dad" mom I know. My husband tells me I even smoke weed like an old dad rolling my Js.

I don't wear makeup or nail polish, I've never like the color pink or purple, gossip is only fun with my friend who is divorcing her republican husband. Shopping is hell on earth.

I do like cooking, and gardening, but those things should not be gendered. I like mens sandles because they are more comfortable than women's for me. I like getting my hands dirty in the dirt. I like being tough and strong.

Im in a bad mood, I'll step away from this conversation that obviously isnt meant for me

Today, nothing feels like it's meant for me. I want to go camping. I want to drink a sour by a bonfire. Sour beer. There, I think that's feminine. I hate IPAs but I loved sours. I had to give up drinking because of my husbands issue with it. Which is fine, but damn i could go for a sour and a bonfire.

To NOT be a mom and housewife and for five fucking seconds. Let me on a quad. :(

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Today, nothing feels like it’s meant for me. I want to go camping. I want to drink a sour by a bonfire

I feel this on a profound level. I never feel more feminine than when I'm in nature, mostly since it's nice to just escape and not have to worry about things like societal expectations.

My campfire drink of choice is a milk stout, preferably if it's chocolate-y or maple-infused.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

tbh, most of it: gardening, makeup, cooking, baking, manicures, pedicures, rosé, mimosas & brunch, chocolate, cute outfits & fashion, arts & crafts, sewing, knitting, skincare, healthy eating, flowers ... honestly I wonder if there is something classically female-coded that I don't like 🤔

Probably I don't love sororities, cheerleading, or dance ...

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Listening to music

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Pink and / or flowery clothes ... though usually in hoodie or t-shirt form, because as a famous comedian once said "if I put on a dress people don't say 'oh how pretty' but rather 'why is that dyke in a dress?'"

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Haha you sound like my ex! I don't think she'd worn a dress since she was 5.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yup. And it's not that I don't like them - when my other half puts on one I just about melt - it's that they don't like me, lol

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Haha I get that

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Being Girly, pink, dresses, make up, clothes

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Gock. Animal rights. Tiddies. Homelab.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Gock is so cool.
I love gock.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

This is a gock appreciation post. 😅

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

nsfwGock is a portmanteau of girl and cock. It is usually used to refer to a trans woman's penis, although it can be used to refer to any woman's penis (for example, an intersex woman's penis).

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Shopping. Definitely shopping. Flower teas. Flowers in general.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

Flowers and plants! And gardens and maybe a nice hat to sit next to the flowers.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Makeup and doing my nails. Love love love it, I find it very relaxing.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

Crafting, crochet, knitting, sewing, drawing etc I like to do it for myself and my loved ones. I like to cook and I live for gossip.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago

Girly scents (vanilla, sweet, flowery). Can’t live without my perfumes. If only there were men’s deodorant with pretty scents I would be set.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

I like reading when I remember that I have books on my phone. Other than that cooking is fun for me. I enjoy making and trying new foods. Hello fresh was a fun service when I could afford it.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Slim fit clothes. Other than that, nothing comes to mind. Idk if reading a lot of books counts...

EDIT: Oh, wait, I love my pink shower gel and my unicorn coffee / tea mugs.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I work long hours as a welder, most of my work clothes are baggy mens clothes from a thrift store. My hair is typically up in a bun and tucked under a cap. I get misgendered a lot when in my work clothes which is fair, I totally get it.

But when I'm waiting on cooldown, on a break, or at lunch, I like to read a book, draw in a sketch pad, or write in a notebook. The guys are always on their phones watching Tiktok or playing some game.

It may be a little thing, but I enjoy reading, writing, and drawing which I consider to be a "typically female thing."

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I love, love, LOVE chocolate. Cakes, biscuits, anything like that I fucking love and could eat all day. I have to be really careful with them at home because I can go into a feeding frenzy.

I know I shouldn't, but I love gossip. It's delicious. I have to make a conscious effort to stay away from it because I know it's harmful to others. Plus I hate people gossiping about me!

I love shabby chic stuff, you walk in my house and you can tell right away it's a woman's house! Pinks, floral, animal cushions etc... it's stereotypically female.

Overall I'd say I'm pretty girly.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Controversial opinion: dark chocolate is best chocolate >:3

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

So controversial! I like around 75% in general, but sometimes dip my toes in the class A substance known as 90%

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I like the intense chocolate flavor and imo true chocolate flavor is bitter.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

My sister in law visited last weekend and brought a big bar of Cadburys for my other half ... I've had a couple of squares, but TBH it makes my teeth ache.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

pretty sure this is a fact

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

oo, spicy chocolate - I had a habit of eating bakers chocolate when I was younger, though I used that more as a stimulant than anything else, lol