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[–] [email protected] 35 points 3 days ago

How's his patience behind the wheel of a car?

[–] [email protected] 57 points 3 days ago (12 children)

The redness of this flag is 100% dependent on his demeanor, it could easily go either way. If I'm working and a customer volunteers to help me do my job in a manner that is clearly not hostile or insulting I'd call that a good thing.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 3 days ago (1 children)

This would freak me the fuck out. Let me do my job, please and thank you. You don't work here.

[–] [email protected] 63 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I can't think of any way doing this regularly could be a good thing.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I can't think of any way doing this ever would be a good thing.

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[+] [email protected] -32 points 3 days ago (4 children)

You can't imagine a scenario where a person choosing to politely and cheerfully assist you with your job would be a good thing? Sounds like a failure of your imagination specifically

[–] [email protected] 53 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Can you imagine your partner being so focused on the 5 minutes it takes a waiter to bring food to the table that, rather than having a conversation with you or something, they stand up and go pick up their plate unlike every single other human being in that restaurant?

[–] [email protected] 37 points 3 days ago (2 children)

They key thing to note here is he does it because he's impatient, not because he's such a nice guy. There is no way he's not a pushy asshole, even if he hides it behind passive-agressive behavior.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago

I think it's more like somebody who doesn't respect this boundary probably doesn't respect other boundaries, too. This is just unhinged behavior, sorry. It's at best profoundly embarrassing.

[+] [email protected] -22 points 3 days ago (1 children)

You don't have a clue what his motives are or whether he's being a pushy asshole or not, you have exactly the same information I do and you're making baseless assumptions. If what you're claiming is true then yes it would be a bad thing, fucking duh, but you don't know that.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

My boyfriend's beige flag is that he gets impatient at restaurants and helps the waitress bring the plates to our table

Yes, I do know that, because it's explicitly stated.

[+] [email protected] -16 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Lol k, well she also used the word "help", and he's smiling in the pic so clearly he's being nice about. You still lose.

Also worth noting that I never said anything abour him being impatient, I said you didn't know he was being a pushy asshole, and you don't. Being impatient does not in any way require being rude.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

And I'm sure she said this was a "beige flag" because he's such a great, thoughtful guy. You're being incredibly obtuse. This is a post about her boyfriend having sketchy behavior.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Do you work in the hospitality industry?

[–] [email protected] -5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Not currently, but I worked front and back of house for several years at sit-down restaurants, plus fast food back in high school. If someone volunteers to make my job easier and isn't a jerk about it I don't see any reason to be upset, seems pretty simple.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Untrained Customers 'helping' sounds like an imsurance liability nightmare.

I wouldn't trust a customer to have clean enough hands to roll flatware. Which would be more helpful than crowding the pickup window or drinks booth with strangers.

Folks who want counter service better skip table service places.

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